Please share little bit of hope of pregnancy after loss!

[Niiina]

Hi everyone! I'm currently experiencing my second chemical MC in as many months and being in the depths of it, I'm feeling incredibly rotten.

I'd love for anyone to share their stories of pregnancy after loss or to share your MC story/sadness/experience. I definitely need some sunshine this week ☀️🌸

(I'd also be interested to know - if you have had multiple losses, were they all the same? This second is much more painful than the first... but I know they say no two pregnancies are the same, so I'm assuming the same applies here!)

Bumping 🤞🏼✨

I’m so sorry for your losses.

I had two miscarriages and they were both different in terms of how they played out, but also the emotional impact after each. Then I had an ectopic that was another very different experience.

These losses were between my two boys. Our youngest is a determined little thing and won’t do anything until he feels ready, so (and I know this might sound weird) I like to believe that it was his soul each time, just making sure he got the right time to arrive with us. And it was absolutely worth the wait.

I hope there’s a rainbow in the future for you too. Wishing you all the best x

Thank you for sharing @SagittariusUprising (and for your kind words) 🤍

Yes I can only imagine! Both of mine have been drastically different and so far, just emotionally numb.

That's lovely to hear. I do also believe in things being meant to be, and yes 100% worth the wait. Yes, hopefully within the next few months we'll get a sticky one! X

So sorry you are experiencing this @Niiina Ive had 2 losses, around the 8-12 week mark. Both different, as one has turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy. But emotionally, I’ve felt the same each time.
I have definitely been in the very depths of grief, but it’s getting a little bit easier in time. Got to hold onto that hope that things will work out, otherwise we wouldn’t put ourselves through it again.
Sorry I’ve no good news story yet, but I always think it’s helps to talk to others

So sorry to hear about your losses.
I've only had 1 loss - MMC in September/October 2020. Found out at 12 week scan that baby had stopped growing at around 7 weeks. Miscarried through medical management.
Fell pregnant again in March 2021 - was advised by EPU to arrange a scan for around 7-8 weeks to check everything was ok, which it was. All following scans were fine. Other than being panicked because I wasn't feeling baby moving thanks to an anterior placenta (baby was kicking the placenta instead of me!) and a couple of trips to the unit for this reason, pregnancy was fine and baby is now a healthy and happy little girl - she'll be 3 in November.

All the best in your rainbow baby journey 🌈

Thank you so much for sharing. Mine have both been very early (4 + 5 weeks respectively). Part of me is worrying, but part of me is just thinking give it time!

That's okay, your good news will also come. Are you actively ttc this cycle?

Thank you so much for sharing and sorry for your loss too! I can only imagine the worry you felt, but such lovely news that you were able to have your beautiful daughter.

Did it discourage you from TTC for a while after? Thank you 🤞🏼

@Niiina I'm sorry for your losses. Its a horrible experience, I think there is always a little bit of your heart that will yearn for them. I know mine does. I've had four miscarriage (second time twins) but I'm now mum to two boys, nearly 19 and youngest 16. There is hope out there even though it might not feel like it right now. Sending you the biggest virtual hug 💐 🫂 🙏❤️

Aww that's lovely, thank you so much @shellyleppard! It definitely gives me hope as I so desperately want to be a Mother and it's hard not to think the worst!

(Also not helping that I still have symptoms now while bleeding, just want to be out the other side now) xx

@Niiina sending hugs x

Sorry for your loses Niiina. Always really hard physically and emotionally at whatever stage they occur.
My two losses have been entirely different. An MMC in the Autumn at 12 weeks with the embryo measuring 6 and, recently a chemical a day before I hit 5 weeks.
They were both a shock because with the MMC I had all symptoms p, had started to look a little pregnant and no clue that all was not well until the scan. With the chemical, it was a blazing positive pink dye and digital and then, a couple of days later, nothing, stark white, followed almost immediately by the start if cramps and bleeding.
Hoping the next time results in a baby and not a different type of miscarriage again (:

One healthy pregnancy, followed by a chemical MC and then a loss at 23 weeks. I'm now pregnant after 4 cycles of trying, quickly approaching our 20 week scan. More medical involvement but so far everything looks good.

First definitely lulled us into a false sense of security and pregnancy after loss is hard but it does happen. Wishing you all the best.

Thank you for your message. So sorry for your losses 🤍 It's such a hard thing to experience, isn't it.
Your second sounds a lot like mine this time. I'm currently waiting to be through it all, I just feel numb at the moment and still have symptoms which is making it feel much harder (the first one I had zero symptoms) xx

Thank you so much for sharing 🤍 So sorry for your two losses but pleased to hear all is healthy with your current pregnancy. It's good to hear you've had more medical attention, has that been reassuring?

It is such a rotten experience, but knowing I'm not alone certainly helps. Just keen to be through the other side now and onto the next month (going to skip this cycle for a break though) xx

Goodness you have had a difficult time. So sorry for your losses and every good wish for your scan and pregnancy going forwards x

Yes, so weird how it symptoms or lack of have bearing on the health of the pregnancy!

I just got discharged today by the hospital (3 months post MC!) as I’ve had to be monitored due to the partial molar. So going to TTC this next cycle. Not going to lie, I am absolutely petrified. Hope you are doing ok today

Sorry to hear of your losses

I’ve had two MC’s and now have a lovely, healthy, happy 8 month old.

No1 was many years ago, an unexpected pregnancy lost at 17w.

When I started ‘trying’ I had a chemical pregnancy/early loss at 5w. At the time I truly felt that the world was ending, the hormone swing really affected me, and I worried I’d never have a healthy pregnancy. I had already registered with the midwifery service due to the previous loss and the team were really helpful.

I then found myself pregnant again just 4 weeks later, because of the previous losses I had an nhs scan at 6 weeks, and a private one at 10 weeks. It definitely took a while mentally to settle into the pregnancy, but physically everything went smoothly.

Yes it's bizarre, isn't it @Carportforme! The first one I had zero symptoms and was further along. This time, I started to get some and they're still here! Hoping it all stops soon so I can move on 🤍

That's great news that you've been discharged @Figtree11! But that's such a long time, isn't it. Pleased you were looked after though. Excited for you for this month, shall we start a thread in the pregnancy section?

I completely get feeling terrified 🤍 I am too scared to go again this cycle. I'm still bleeding at the moment so I'll see when it stops too.

I'm feeling okay. Still in shock I think and in a way, trying not to think about it. DH has been great with me though. How are you today?

Thank you so much for sharing @Somanylemons 🤍 Sorry for your losses too! Really pleased to hear you have a healthy 8 month old. So worth it!

Yes I can completely relate. The emotional side is just awful too. I do take comfort in the additional support I should get from the NHS when I get pregnant next time 🤞🏼

Good to know you did have a successful pregnancy the following cycle xx