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Why do I keep miscarrying at my age?

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Bb542 · 18/07/2024 09:17

Hi everyone,

I've just turned 30 and I'm currently experiencing a MMC. This is my second miscarriage in less than 6 months.
With this pregnancy, I haven't miscarried yet but will probably start to over the next couple of days as there has been very slow growth and no heartbeat. I should be 9 weeks pregnant.
We don't seem to have any problems conceiving, as with both pregnancies it only took us 2 tries each time to successfully get pregnant. My problem seems to be staying pregnant.
I know nobody here can tell me why it keeps happening, but I suppose I'm looking to hear stories from other people who've been in a similar position and who have gone on to have a successful pregnancy. What helped you stay pregnant?
I have my suspicions that I have IBS and food intolerances, as I've always suffered from extreme bloating and irregular bowl movements. Could this lead to pregnancy loss if there is an issue in my gut? Before we try again, I am going to get blood tests/a full health check to rule out anything, but I wonder could that have something to do with it?
I never thought I'd be referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic at the age of 30 😢 I just don't know how we go through this again.

Thanks ❤️ and thinking of all those going through loss. It's so sad.

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Bb542 · 21/07/2024 13:53

RedWinePoliticsAndHair · 20/07/2024 22:04

I have a friend who was similar. She's got three kids but has had (and this is shocking) 23 pregnancies. 20 miscarriages. It was horrific for her and several of them were later stage. But progesterone was a game changer for her; she had to take it all through the three that stuck.

Her advice now with fertility is always make a fuss as soon as things start going wrong, note patterns so that you've got something to tell the doctors and demand the very many tests available. If you can go private, probably do (that's how she's ended up with three successful pregnancies, although much of the diagnostic stuff was NHS.

Good luck @Bb542 - I hope you get some answers and a successful pregnancy soon.

Oh wow. Your friend has been through so much and must be so strong. I'm so happy she has her 3 rainbow babies now ❤️ it seems like a lot of people are saying progesterone is a game changer. I will definitely ask about it. Thanks so much for advice ❤️

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Dm24 · 23/07/2024 23:42

Bb542 · 21/07/2024 13:37

So so happy you got your rainbow baby after so many losses ❤️ thank you for the suggestions. I'm in Ireland so not sure what the wait times are for recurrent miscarriage clinic but if it's a long wait I'll definitely be going private. Hopefully I'll get some answers. ❤️

Hi @Bb542 sorry for jumping on your thread, I’m really sorry to hear about your losses, it’s so so tough and hoping you will get some answers soon. I’m also in Ireland and am currently going through my second consecutive miscarriage as my hcg has been rising very slowly so they think the pregnancy is non viable, I’m 27 and feeling very hopeless this is happening again. I’ve heard you have to have 3 losses to be seen by the recurrent miscarriage clinic, did you get referred after two as really hoping I will be aswell!

Bb542 · 24/07/2024 14:48

@Dm24 hi lovely. I'll PM you now 🥰

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jellyfish2 · 24/07/2024 14:54

@Bb542 how are you?

Bb542 · 24/07/2024 14:57

I'm ok thanks @jellyfish2 . Trying to get on with things as best I can but I still haven't miscarried yet. I think I'm going to need a D&C.

How are you doing? What stage are you at now in your TTC journey? Hope you're doing ok 🩷

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jellyfish2 · 24/07/2024 17:21

@Bb542 im so sorry it's just awful. I found the d&c a relief in such a shit situation. I'm ok, I'm 6wks pregnant now but I'm just a bit of a mess waiting for something to go wrong to be honest. Hopefully everything is ok but I definitely won't be getting excited for a while.

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