Loss at 8 weeks and waiting for second scan

[Aquacoast9]

Hi,
I went for a private scan last week, I was feeling fine (sickly, tired just usual symptoms) and just wanted reassurance that things were developing in the right place and also how many were in there. I was then met with the news that there was no heartbeat so was referred to the hospital the next day. They said it was measuring at 8 weeks and 1 day and I was just over that. At the hospital they scanned and confirmed no heartbeat and said they would need to scan again in a week and then at that time we would make a decision of which way to go.
I have had massive headaches since then and read it is because of the drop in hormones and I just feel sick, exhausted and just not right. I just wondered if anyone else had felt like this in a similar situation. It’s the emotional side too that I’m still carrying something and knowing what’s coming up next week.

Hi Aquacoast9,

So sorry you are having this experience, it is awful. I had an MMC last Autumn at 12 weeks. I had no idea anything was wrong at all until I saw the dreaded screen. Baby only measured 6 weeks!! It appeared my body just clung to the idea that I was healthily pregnant! I had surgical management.

I think you are probably suffering somewhat with the stress of the situation which is really not surprising. It takes quite a while to get ones head around an MMC and I think the heartbreak and stress can manifest in physical symptoms.

Sending you a hug.

12 week scan to to find out my baby died at 8 weeks and it was a missed miscarriage.

have since tried medical management which has failed, I’ve bled no more than a light period no pain, cramps or clots.

am due in hospital Tuesday for surgical management. utterly lost and devastated and don’t know what to expect.

I'm sorry you're going through this. I has the same news in July. When she said the heartbeat had stopped the floor fell out from under me.
I opted for surgical management. They gave me a general anesthetic and I was back home mid -afternoon. It was pain free and I just had some light bleeding for a few days after. I ovulated about 2 weeks after the surgery and I'm now waiting for my period to arrive. Hopefully yours will be straightforward as well. Allow yourself as much time as you can to come to terms with things. I only took 3 days off work and wish I'd taken more. I still get upset now when I replay things in my mind. I hope this helps, sending you gentle hugs x

All miscarriages are awful no matter when and how they take place. I big issue with missed miscarriages is that they usually come as a huge shock. Before mine, I had heard of early miscarriages, late miscarriages, stillbirth and chemical pregnancies (I have since had one one Chemical) but I had never heard of a missed miscarriage. A situation where one feels pregnant and the body is still behaving as if it is and yet, unbeknown to the would be mum, the pregnancy has become unviable is horrific to say the least and I still have nightmares about it to be honest.
I didnt know MN existed before I had mine but I really wish I had known it was a possibility. The other thing is that it is always talked about as being rare but that isnt the impression I have got. Obviously on these forums we see it mentioned, sadly, quite a lot but equally I have been surprised how other people have opened up and said that they too have had this happen to them.

I take from this that it is not as rare as the medical world would have us believe and therefore we are absolutely not alone. Many just dont talk about it. We wre together with many on this ladies and its bloody painful but we will all, hopefully get our rainbows eventually.