Sensitive topic - pregnancy loss remains

[RS24]

Hi everyone, I unfortunately miscarried 6 weeks ago, 2 days before my 12 week mark. It was and is extremely hard as we were trying for the guts of 2 years. I had surgical removal and was given the option to collect any remains. I chose this. Today I received the letter to say the remains are ready to be collected and I'm having such a hard time with it. I don't know if I have done the right thing, and I should I have went with the other option which was group cremation and scattering at a remembrance garden. I don't know what to expect upon collection considering I was 12 weeks pregnant. I was content in creating a little fairy garden or something along those lines in which I could burry the remains, but I'm worried that something will happen to it or I might become sad seeing it everyday at home. Just feeling conflicted and wondering if anyone else has collected remains??

@RS24 I'm so sorry for your loss. I found out at my 12wk scan that my baby had died and also decided to bring the remains home. I didn't realise I'd have to wait and after that I kind of regretted it as I felt I couldn't move on as I still had to go to the hospital to collect them. Anyway I did collect them and although it was difficult, we buried our little one and planted some flowers too. It is sad but I actually find it really comforting and I'll go over and talk to her/him or just stand in silence and have a little moment. In the end I'm glad I did it. Hopefully you will feel the same x

Thank you so much for your reply @jellyfish2. This is very similar to me, I feel like even receiving the letter has brought me back to that first week. But we have also decided to collect our remains. I'm so glad you have that beautiful space to be with your little one and I am so sorry for your loss. No one should have to go through it.

@RS24it really is like that but you will be glad once it's done and you can try to move on. It's a truly awful experience and I can only hope that it never happens to us again.