First period after late miscarriage 💔

[SarahA24]

I started my period today since I gave birth to our son at 18 weeks 💔 this week it’ll be 6 since I gave birth.

ive found posts on here really helpful when I was pregnant and when we lost our son, although didn’t find many posts re periods after a late miscarriage so I hope this might help and if anyone can relate/has similar experience it would be great to chat.

i started cramping last week, not my usual pre period cramps but I also had some pink spotting and hot flushes, hormonal rage and broken out a few spots on my face, I’m really bloated and look like I’m still pregnant 💔 felt like my body was fighting against me, knowing it’s not meant to have a period right now 😩

i finally started bleeding today, heavy enough to need to wear a pad but not quite in full flow so I expect day 1 will be tomorrow? I have an appointment to go for an internal scan to check everything is before we start fertility treatment again so not going to be much fun.

I’m completely heartbroken that I have my period but at the same time I feel relieved, that my cycle started again on its own, my body is healing, and hopefully this is the start of my cycle so we can start trying again.

I'm so sorry for your loss 💙
Periods can be a bit out of whack for a bit after, especially the first one. You may well find you start bleeding more heavily tonight or tomorrow.
Your scan will help you calm anxieties and know that everything is as it should be before you start trying again. Be really kind to yourself, it's not an easy journey. Losing a baby/child isn't something anyone should ever have to go through but us angel mamas are tough and we find strength we never knew we had xx

Thanks for posting and sorry for your loss! I lost our baby at 15+3, I bled for three weeks and then got my period 2.5 weeks later. I had no period symptoms and just came on unexpectedly and I was so heavy for three days. Going through a pad or super tampon every two hours. I had no cramps though.

I cried when I got my period and was devastated. But after seeing how much there was I was glad I was dispelling the extra inside me. It felt almost like a fresh start. We’re back TTC as soon as that period ended.

@ANiceBigCupOfTea Thank you ❤️ definitely bleeding heavier now 😩 been up 3 times during the night to change pad and go to the toilet 🙈 wish I hadn’t left my laptop in the office and I could have worked from home today but now I need to go in.

had my scan yesterday and my consultant is calling me today to discuss next steps as the consultant who scanned me was concerned as to how thick my lining is, he said it should be a lot thinner than it is but they won’t know until they’ve had a look inside so I expect the call today will involve arranging bloods and a hysteroscopy, not looking forward to that but if it helps to get any further treatment I need before we start ivf again, it will save me a lot more heartache 🙏🏻 here’s hoping! Xx

@CSSL7 I’m so sorry for your loss. A few people had told me to expect that the first period after a miscarriage can be heavier and traumatic but because I’ve felt it coming for so long it’s felt like torture so when I did start bleeding there was more relief but then the grief hit me yesterday 💔 I have days where I feel almost “normal” and then the days I’m reminded I’m not pregnant any more when I know I should be are just the worst 💔

I’m pretty sure I ovulated about a week after my bleeding stopped as I had all the signs of fertile mucus but neither my husband and I were ready to even have sex never mind try again, as much as we want to it’s all just a bit raw still 💔 xx

@SarahA24 I’m so sorry for your loss. It sounds devastating.
I had a MC almost 9 weeks ago at 12 weeks pregnant. I’ve still not had my period. My pregnancy was diagnosed as a partial molar which I think has delayed my periods a bit as I only tested negative 2 weeks ago. I have been stressing about my period not returning, but I think a MC just really throws our bodies out of whack.
Sending you love, it’s such a horrible place to be in x

I'm in a similar place as you @SarahA24 - I'm sorry for your loss. It's now been 6 wks since my late miscarriage. I bled for about 3 weeks after then stopped for about 5 days then my period came which seemed to last for longer than usual too.

I spoke to my bereavement midwife the other day and they said that I should wait until after my appointment to go over the postmortem results before I try again. They said they would do blood tests so they can rule out 'sticky blood' before I try again.

I found it really disheartening as I had 'fertile window' symptoms and it gave me a bit of hope that I could try again. Even though I know there is a good chance that I won't be able to conceive again without IVF - I just needed something positive to focus on amongst all the sadness.