My experience-Missed miscarrige, surgical removal

[littlefox90]

Hello, I just wanted to share my experience with a missed misscarrige/surgical removal for those who may be going through the same and want reassurance.

BEFORE-I found out last week at my 12 week scan that the baby was measuring at 8.5 days and there was no heartbeat. I then had another scan the same day as it needed to be confirmed by two professionals.
The next day the I had an appointment with the early pregnancy team who where very good but said that the sac was larger then expected and strongly suggested because of this that I had surgical removal under general anaesthetic. This was the first time I had been put under for anything so this was terrifying for me. I also suffer from anxiety. I was then booked in for today which was 3 days later. The wait was horrible.
I started bleeding yesterday afternoon. Light bleeding and light cramping.

DURING: I went this morning and was super worried. The nurses where great. I had my obs taken, some bloods taken was given a gown to wear and then the anaestheist came to have a chat and put my mind at ease then the registra did the same. Spoke to me about rare risk ect. All in all an hour and a half then I was taken down. The anaestheist were lovley, really helped me to stay to calm, fitted my cannula and then put in some pain meds then another syringe in and told me I'll be asleep in a few minutes. They told me to take some deep breaths through the oxygen mask and then I was looking up and thinking, I don't feel different, this isn't working. Then I woke up in recovery!

AFTER - I woke up feeling a bit disoriented, like when you think youre at home but then wake up at a friends or in a hotel. They checked my pad and asked me to cough to check for active bleeding. They let my partner come in to meet me in recovery, they gave me water and checked my obs. I had a bag of fluid in my cannula. I was then moved back to the ward. I had a little blood when I moved from one bed to another. Light cramping but not bad at all. I was looked after well, given water and hot chocolate and then some lunch. I had to go for a wee before I left but was on my way home after two hours.

All in all it was a good experience under the circumstances. Obviously emotionally and being ready to try again will come in time ❤️

How thoughtful of you to share your experience, thank you Op. I am booked in for the same this Friday so this is very helpful to read. I wish you speedy recovery and pleased it went as well as it could. So sorry for your loss.

I thought if anything could come out of this it's the chance to be able to help others a little.

I'm sorry to hear you are going though the same. You'll be very well cared for ❤️ sending hugs x

Also if you have anything you want to ask please feel free to ❤️

oh @littlefox90 - I hope you are ok and sending you love...I'm so sorry for your loss xx

I really appreciate you sharing this, I'm booked in on Saturday so this has helped me a lot as I have been worrying too, so thank you xx

Your welcome ❤️ I'm sorry you have to go through this. If anyone needs support we can use this thread x

@littlefox90 I'm so glad you were treated so well. Your experience sounds very similar to mine, I've always been treated with such care and kindness when I've gone for surgical management. Sending hugs for the emotional recovery xx

Thank you. I'm sorry it has been something that you have had to go through too x

Wanted to add an update for anyone interested. I was warned that everyone is different though. I've had very mimimal cramping last night but none today.
Also very minimal bleeding, could probably get away with not wearing a pad but have a normal one on just incase

I just wanted to say that I hope things went as well as possible under the circumstances and to send a hug x

Thanks so much @littlefox90 it did go as well as it could and I was very well looked after. I found myself getting emotional every time someone expressed their condolences or was lovely to me, which was often! The anaesthetist rubbed my arm and said “we’re going to take very good care of you” and I nearly burst into tears. Like you, I have mild cramping but nothing too bad at all. I hope you’re still feeling ok and recovering well. Here if you ever need to chat, sending hugs x

@wellwellwow I'm glad you were so well looked after. Don't worry, I cried when the anaesthetists were being kind to me! That's always the moment the loss feels most real to me (when I've been about to go under), can't help but get emotional xx

Absolutely @moosey89 i think you’ve articulated that perfectly. So sorry you’ve experienced it too x

I am glad that you had kind people around you. I was talking to a friend the other day who experienced this around 30 years ago. The doctor walked in and said "why are you crying, it's nothing yet" 😳 I was absolutely shocked. Sounds like care and understanding around this has come a long way over the years.

Thank you, I'm feeling a bit emotional on and off. Would like to try again but the thought also terrifies me 😕 sounds silly but feel like I've been robbed of the last 12 weeks, had a horrid first trimester x

Anyone not feel quite right after their op? I'm day 3 post op and I'm still not 100%. I'm very tired and almost woozy if I do too much. I just don't feel right. Maybe this is to be expected. Emotionally I'm a disaster but I thought physically I'd feel a bit better.

@Kazza2803 I felt absolutely wiped for almost a week, but to be honest I put it down to my emotional state. I always feel floored when I'm emotionally spent xx

Thank you OP. I am currently in the horrible limbo between finding out my baby has died and having to wait for another week to be scanned again to be double sure and then they’ll talk to me about my options.
I am scared and sad and overwhelmed by it all. This baby so very wanted and it took us nearly a year to conceive.

I haven't got through a day so far without a nap. Day 3 my partner and step dad smashed out the bathroom and I slept right through it. I think it's normal as your physically and emotionally drained xx

I'm so sorry your going through this it's horrible having to wait for news. There are some fantastic charity's if you need to talk to someone and also you have us to vent to ❤️

Thank you for your kind reply. I actually think I miscarried naturally last night so I’m feeling almost relieved now. I still have to go to the EPU on Tuesday and obviously there is still the chance I’ll have to have further intervention if it hasn’t all come away but at least my body has finally recognised that baby was gone.

That's understandable. I had my op Tuesday but started to bleed Monday afternoon. As much as I wanted the baby it was a relief to know that they were right and get some type of physical confirmation x

How is everyone feeling/doing?

I am honestly in the worst mood. I'm just feeling so angry at the world. And all i want is for my period to turn up so we can move forward. This whole feeling stuck and out of control is the worst.

I understand that. I was sad then angry and felt really ripped off for wasting 12 weeks of bad morning sickness and anxiety. Now I'm in the stage of wanting to be able to try again and a bit scared to try