Multiple miscarriages, do we just stop trying?

[PigeonDuckGoose]

I am 34 years old and have been trying for a second baby for a number of years.

I have 1 son from a previous relationship and had 1 misscarriage after having my son with his father.

After this I met someone new and have had 1 misscarriage, 1 ectopic (resulting in me losing one fallopian tube) and I am now going through another misscarriage (6 week scan showed a heartbeat, following weeks scan showed no heart beat, awaiting natural miscarriage).

After our consultation post ectopic we were cleared to try again and we got pregnant within 3 months of trying. I don't seem to have any issues with getting pregnant.

I just don't know if we are kidding ourselves to try again, each loss takes a bit more away from us.

NHS have said they will send me for blood tests but these may come back with no answer.

Has anyone been through similar losses before, did you go onto have a successful pregnancy? Did you have tests done? Did they show any issues? Did you give up trying?

I feel so confused and upset, everyone I know who has had a MC has one then they move onto have successful pregnancies. I don't know anyone close to our situation.

I’m sorry OP, it’s so hard. I don’t have personal experience (I have 2 DCs and have had 2 miscarriages (currently going through my second)) but I know of someone who had 4 miscarriages consecutively and then went on to have 3 successful pregnancies in a row. You are still young enough to keep trying. But I do understand how disheartening it must be. Sending hugs

I keep being told I am getting to an age where I am more likely to have losses.

During my Ectopic I was questioned on why I had such an age gap multiple times (my son was 10 then). There's a gap because I left his dad and have then had multiple losses. It's not for want of trying. :(

I feel like a ticking time bomb, getting to old, too many losses...

Do you know if your friend had any tests?

I don’t know for sure whether she had any tests I’m afraid, I think she was about to get some and then she got pregnant. I do understand the worry about age but I had both my children when I was older than you are now. It’s really insensitive that you were questioned about the age gap, I’m sorry you were treated like that

I’m so sorry for your losses @PigeonDuckGoose I recently had my second consecutive MC. First was last year at 10 weeks. Most recent was at 12 weeks, but was a partial molar.
Im 33 with no children & so going to keep trying but feel like I might be just walking into more losses & not sure I can take it.
Everyone I know who has had a MC has just had 1, then gone onto have a successful pregnancy so I am worried I have underlying issues.

Sorry I don’t have a good news story to share yet, but you aren’t alone

@PigeonDuckGoose I'm sorry for your losses. I don't have a good news story yet but wanted to let you know you're not alone.

I've had 3 MMCs, one with my ex, which took 2.5 years to conceive, and 2 with my current partner that took 6 and 9 months respectively to conceive. I think if it took me less time to get pregnant I'd feel less apprehensive of having to try again. The whole cycle of getting pregnant and losing taking a year really wipes me out.

I'm 35, so not getting any younger and with no kids I'm facing a potential version of the future without having a baby. Not necessarily without kids (we would look into adoption) but yeah, it's definitely not where I saw myself being at this stage in my life and it's hard to see time passing by.

I only started trying at age 34 and had 3 miscarriages quite close together. I then had a successful pregnancy. I had loads of testing but they found nothing. I was told to keep trying. It was very upsetting. I hope thing work out for you quickly.

Hi
Firstly I'm so sorry for what you're going through I know the feeling of hopelessness all to well.
I'm currently 29 weeks pregnant with a healthy baby boy. Prior to this I had 4 consecutive miscarriages including an ectopic, no living children.
I did have private tests after the 2nd and more in depth tests after the 3rd some minor issues picked up which I'm now on heparin injections and took steriods upto 12 weeks with this pregnancy.
I'll never truly know if it was the treatment or just luck. Only you will know when enough is enough, I know I was reaching the limit of heartbreak I could take. Personally I had to have every test and tick every box before I called it a day.
But one day you might be part of someone else's hope by telling your story of success.