Miscarriage at 6 weeks - question

[Mummaof2littlemonkeys]

Hello all,

Last Wednesday (so a week ago today) when I was 7+1 weeks pregnant I started bleeding (spotting actually started several days earlier but I wasn’t concerned as I had this with my son and daughter and they were both ok) and cramping. I couldn’t get through to the EPU but I managed to get a private scan, where they could see the baby with a heartbeat, although I was only measuring 6+2. From then I knew it wasn’t a good sign. I continue to bleed and cramp, with tiny tiny clots on Thursday. On Saturday I was seen at the EPU and they scanned me again, and unfortunately my little angel’s heartbeat had stopped, and I was still measuring 6+2, so it must have died the same day as my private scan.
I’m absolutely devastated and feel so so guilty. My husband didn’t want the baby and had been pressuring me to terminate, as he was concerned about moving house, finances, etc. I really didn’t want to terminate but I also didn’t want to tear our family apart, so I did book a consultation to speak to somebody. I feel like the poor little love knew and that’s why this has happened.

Due to NHS guidelines I have to go back to the EPU next Monday (so 9 days after my last scan) to ‘confirm’ that the pregnancy isn’t viable, even though it’s clear that the baby has died. I haven’t stopped bleeding since Wednesday, and I have moments of strong cramps/aches, but I haven’t had any large clots. Is it possible I won’t pass anything large because of how early I am/was? Or is it likely I will need a management plan. It’s my son’s birthday next week and I so desperately want this to be over before then. I don’t want to be in pain/recovering from surgery on his birthday and that to be how I remember his birthday going forward.

Thank you xx

Hiya, so sorry for your loss. I’ve had 3 mc’s all around the 6 week mark. I didn’t want to read and run without giving my experience.

i had quite large clots with all of mine. My first and 3rd I had clots the size of my palm come out which was the pregnancy.
I’ve had to experience medical management and natural management. And to be fair I’d go down the route of medical management any day. Natural management was super painful😬

when you go on Monday they may say to have medical management. Doing it same day, you should have passed the pregnancy by Tuesday and will possibly have like a heavy period bleeding. in my case that’s what happened. Once the clots had finished and pregnancy was passed it turned into a period that finished a couple of weeks later.

longest bleed I’ve had have been with my first and second and they lasted 6 weeks of light period bleeding. Then my 3rd lasted just a week of bleeding and that was it but my 3rd I had retained tissue as well so had to go in for medication to remove it and I stopped bleeding 4 days after that and my first actual period was 4 days late the following month.

I hope it helps x

Hi there,
thank you for sharing your experience with me. When you say you would recommend medical management, do you mean tablets you take? Or surgery?
xxx

yeah so theyre the tablets you insert into your vagina. it helps your body by causing it to cramp and release the pregnancy :)

When you have gone down the natural route did you have to keep having scans to determine if you had pass all of the tissue or not? I’m really not good with anything internal due to a traumatic birth with my eldest.
How long did it take until you passed the pregnancy? I’ve been bleeding since last Wednesday and I hate that I’m waiting for the inevitable xx

it took a while to pass, unfortunately you will have an internal scan on Monday to confirm it and then another to confirm that it has passed.