Period / pregnancy after miscarriage

[Friendsfan93]

Hey everyone - I had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks in late March. I took misoprostil a week after we had the confirmation scan, and then had to have surgical management as some was still remaining. That was in late April. I had little to no bleeding really after the surgical management, and then had what I think was a very light period around 9 may (2 weeks after surgical). I did LH strips every day and think I found a peak (although not 100% sure as the lines were never totally
the same colour), and think I ovulated around 27/28 May. My husband and I had sex basically every day in the week and a half before and after 27 may. My period is now 3 days late and I feel constantly nauseous, yet I’m having completely negative pregnancy tests and no sign of my
period coming. Help I’m so confused and driving myself crazy thinking I’m pregnant but having negative tests. I’m on cycle day 40 and my cycles are normally 37 days. Any advice appreciated. I feel like getting pregnant again is the answer to my grief but I’m also really trying not to get my hopes up.

Hiya lovely, I’m so sorry for your loss.
I just want to jump on here to say I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks in early March this year that I expelled naturally. I am and have felt similar to yourself.

I actually created my mums net account as I was so desperate to know what was going on in my first period after the mc and didn’t know what to expect. I am due my 3rd period since on Sunday and both have been 28/29 days apart since and regular and normal once on.

The week before though, each time I have felt very sick, very gassy, bloated and cramps. At first it was triggering for me as I literally felt exactly the same as when I was pregnant. It’s so confusing, is how I’d describe it and a complete mind f**k.

I think because I now know how to recognise the symptoms (it was my first pregnancy), I just associate the feelings with that straight away. I also feel more in tune with my body and can feel all of the symptoms a lot more. I am convinced the intensity has changed.

I would say definitely don’t rule out that you may get a positive as it’s normal to get a negative before a positive. Sending you so much love, just know you’re not alone xx

Sorry for your loss ❤️

I had an early loss at the beginning of May and counted the first day of bleeding as CD1.

My cycles are usually around 30-32 days. I was taking LH strips obsessively and sometimes they got a bit darker but never really positive when I thought they should be (My CB digital opk showed peak fertility on CD13 which I think looking back was HCG still in my system).

Day 30, I got my peak which lasted about 3 days (previously cycle it was CD20 and lasted about 24 hours).

my cycle didn’t come until day 46 and I’m now CD4 of a new cycle. I think the MC messed my body up more than I thought it would.

i did read a lot of stories about people bouncing back quickly and was disappointed when that wasn’t me. I also think we didn’t catch the egg because we stopped having sex a week before my positive as we thought I had already ovulated and we may have been too late when my OPKs were positive.

anyway, you may be pregnant but also don’t be hard on yourself if your body is messed up 🫶

Thank you both for your kind and reassuring responses. It's so hard to know what's going on, and I'm learning that patience is necessary! @GreenPickle your experience sounds very similar to mine. I'm also worried we've now potentially missed the ovulation window... Although last time I got pregnant when the test strips weren't showing a proper peak, but similar ish colour lines (like this time around on 27/28 May). I have been randomly testing between when I think I ovulated and now, but I worry not enough and I might have missed it. Thinking I should have just continued testing every day even after I saw it start to drop. @Beks96 it's good to hear you're about to have cycle 3 and that things do return to normal again. I agree, the symptoms are so triggering and you then feel so stupid for even thinking there was a possibility you are pregnant. Such mind games with yourself! Tested again last night and nothing. Will keep testing. I just want something to happen - positive test or period - so I can stop being in this limbo. I hope you both get good news soon xx

That's exactly how I felt, so stupid to ever think that would happen to me. And it kind of makes me feel a bit unworthy of it all then aswell, if that makes sense.

Although it's horrible for it to have happened, it's comforting to hear someone else feeling similar and makes me feel a bit more normal!

Your periods should return to normal as well. Although mine were regular, they definitely were not my 'normal' flow wise and symptom wise to begin with but have gotten better with time. They still aren't completely back to normal and I can't help but feel my body won't ever be the same again.

I have everything crossed for you, throwing so much hope your way let us know how you get on❤️xx

@Friendsfan93 ❤️❤️ tbh I only took a test on CD30 because I had quite a bit of EWCM so just tested out of curiosity and it turned out to be positive. Not really sure why it was positive for so long though.

dont be hard on yourself, your body may have had hcg leftover longer than you think.

im hopeful for this cycle though 🫶 I think my body needed time to regulate itself.

maybe carry on taking OPKs in case you still haven’t peaked?

@Beks96 you're definitely not unworthy and it will happen in time, it's just a question of when (which is the most frustrating part!).

It's definitely good to hear other stories of people in similar places for reassurance. I don't really have lots of close friends who are even thinking about trying for kids yet, and my mum or mother-in-law haven't been through this, so I'm limited on who I can ask if things are normal or not.

I still haven't got my period and am still testing negative on pregnancy tests (not even a glimpse of a faint line). The nausea has calmed a lot, and I'm now wondering if it was a very mild version of Covid as my friend had it last week and was vomiting loads, and I was with her...

@GreenPickle I'm hopeful for you too this cycle! Fingers crossed! Just keep on those LH tests!

I'll let you both know what happens in the end with this. At this stage I'm just hoping my period comes so we can have a crack at trying again soon...

Hi op, I only know too well the stress that comes with waiting for a period.
I had a MMC in November & it took me 8 weeks to get a period. I was then waiting & waiting and doing pregnancy tests, and 6 weeks later I got my positive. I think our bodies get so out of whack following a MC.

That pregnancy unfortunately ended in a partial molar, so I am back on the TTC bus & waiting for my period to come. 7 weeks and counting! Doctors won’t allow me to TTC until I’m discharged due to the partial molar.

The waiting does feel unbearable when you want something so bad. I hope you either get your period soon so you can start your next cycle, or you get that much wanted positive test x

Oh @Figtree11 so sorry - what an awful experience for you. Thank you for sharing. I guess it's a good sign you got pregnant so quickly after the MMC. I really hope it happens again for you soon.

Thank you. I am hoping I will be able to get pregnant again soon. I know it’s so tough, but my last pregnancy shows that you can get pregnant even with longer cycles after MC ❤️

@Friendsfan93 I'm in a similar position as most of my friends are single and have never experienced this before. I opened up to my work colleagues about it and found that a few of their partners had multiple miscarriages but were pregnant again. One of them went on to have 3 babies after one. It definitely gives you hope. Made me realise that people I've worked closely with and get on with really well have been through the same thing and you'd never have known until I shared with them. I wish there was more awareness but can also see how more awareness could be triggering as well.

I completely relate to not having anyone to share and ask for advice though. It's nice to have this as an outlet.

@Figtree11 I'm so sorry to hear about your experiences😔 As op said, it's definitely a good sign that you can get pregnant again, soon as well. I hope you get your period soon and wish you all the best in getting that positive you deserve x

Thanks @Beks96 I’m so sorry for your loss.
I’ve had very similar experiences with colleagues too - I’ve told a few people, and the amount of people I now know who have had miscarriages makes me realise how common it really is

Hey ladies. I wanted to updated you that my period came on Saturday morning, and read into this what you will but it was after I saw Taylor swift and felt the happiest I’ve been in months! I think she worked her magic on me. It’s very heavy and painful - did you get this? I’m taking codeine back to back :(

Hiya lovely, I was only thinking about checking how you were this morning, I'm so glad you had a lovely time seeing Taylor Swift and I'm so happy for you that it's worked its magic and youre back to knowing where you're up to, it must be a relief! The happy hormones definitely helped!

I've had a positive test today, and I cant quite believe it but I also feel like I'm doing everything I can to pull it apart in my head, already! Definitely proves that there is hope after loss as it took 2 and a half years the first time. Just hoping it sticks, taking everything in me to not be negative about it.

Im so glad that your cycle is back on track and also that you enjoyed the concert. Your health and wellbeing comes first, before anything, everything else will fall into place. Sending you so much love and positivity🤍xx

The codeine definitely should help, it helped me a lot, that and ibuprofen/nurofen❤️xx

Oh wow @Beks96 that’s amazing news and definitely something to feel positive about!! Very happy for you and I really hope it all works out. I’ll be crossing all fingers and toes!

I’m just excited now for my period to be over so we can try again! I’ll keep you updated!