Misoprostol medical management miscarriage over quickly

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I had a miscarriage under medical management yesterday and whilst going through it I was (stupidly) all over mumsnet trying to hear of other people’s stories with it.

We are all so different so please remember whatever you read will likely not happen to you. I did find that I read a lot of negative stories about it which put me in total fear though. Especially stories of it not working or going on for days…

Mine was pretty horrific but it all happened over a few hours so I thought I’d share my story to give hope to some that it may be over with as quickly as mine was…

I am meant to be 11 weeks today.

I had a private scan at 7weeks3days (according to the start of my last period). In that scan I was told I’d probably ovulated late as the baby measured at 6wks2days, but there was a heartbeat. Yay!

I am lucky to say I have a 2yr old boy already and loved being pregnant with him. I had zero symptoms apart from sore boobs and being tired.

I Seem to have the same symptoms again this time so figured it was a boy again.

last Tuesday, when I was 9weeks3days, I felt really sick. Figured it was a tummy bug of some sort as my son picks up all sorts from nursery. Although in the afternoon I wiped and noticed some faint brown blood. I panicked and called the Mat unit at hospital and said isn’t it weird I’m suddenly feeling sick as I haven’t throughout the pregnancy and then this blood happened? They reassured me everything was fine and it sounded like normal preg symptoms…

I didn’t notice the bleeding after that and felt better the next day so figured all was fine.

Then on Saturday, when 10wks1day, there was more faint blood. I panicked and was staying with a friend who happened to be a doctor. She explained bleeding does happen a lot and if it doesn’t get worse all should be fine. On Sunday there was more blood. We went for a private scan that day and they confirmed the baby had stopped growing at around 8weeks. :(

I have a theory that the baby stopped growing around that Tuesday when I felt ill, when I was actually 9wks4days, and the baby just had growth issues which is why it looked the size of a week younger, and that’s why it miscarried.

what I like to tell myself anyway…

i then had another scan at the EPU this Tues to confirm it all and decide my options. I thought medical management sounded better than surgery. Didn’t want to risk going under and any scarring.

I was told I’d pass blood and there’d be some pain but boy I didn’t realise how much pain.

I had a C-section with my son so haven’t experienced labour. If the pain I went through with this was the same as labour I can’t get over those women who go through it more than once!

the pills were inserted in me at 2pm yesterday. We went home and I sat on the sofa. I felt fine for a couple of hrs and there was no bleeding. Around 4pm I started getting slight cramps and small bits of blood started coming out. I was wearing a pad which was put on in hospital at 2pm.

at around 6pm the pain was a lot worse. I was going to the toilet every 5mins, passing clots. My pad was never getting that soaked though.

A big blob came out and I thought it was the baby, then a bigger blob around 50p came out and I thought that was the baby. The pain after that was excruciating. My husband had put our son to bed and came up to find me pale as a sheet on the toilet making no sense and sweating and shaking. He rang 999. Over those few minutes I started to come round and convinced everyone we didn’t need an ambulance. I was on the verge of passing out but my mind started to come together. I have never experienced pain like it. I couldn’t talk to my husband for a while. I couldn’t say anything. It was horrific and I feel like the pain lasted a good 1-2hrs.

At around 9pm the pain was lessening and I had a heat pad on me which def helped. Was also taking paracetamol, ibuprofen and codeine every 2hrs.
I felt I was through it. Around that time I went to the toilet and something the size of my fist came out. I was so exhausted and had zero emotions I didn’t care and flushed it away.

what a horrid experience. My mum had this at 16weeks so it would have been double the size. I can’t get over how horrific it was. Mad to think it was all over within 5hrs for me though.

If I ever have to go through this again I will 100% do surgery. It’s been just over 24hrs and I already feel like I’m forgetting what that pain was, amazing how our bodies do this. But I remember screaming at my husband saying NEVER LET ME DO THIS AGAIN enough to know I really can’t.

i have been fine today. It’s like yesterday never happened. I’ve been on my feet all day playing with my son going to the park and walking the dog. A lot of friends have said I should rest and stay in bed but I’ve felt totally fine. It’s so bizarre!! I am still bleeding but it’s just like a period now. No pain or anything. I have slight fear that maybe cramps will come back but hopefully this is it!

if you do do medical management, just beware the pain is really really tough. Keep on top of drugs, have heat pads, make sure you’re comfortable and near a toilet and make sure you are not alone.

i am so so so sorry for anyone who has ever had to go through this.

you are all amazing!

xx

So sorry you had to go through this!! :( it is horrific.

My story is slightly different. I really wanted the operation and was forced to do it naturally due to waiting lists (3 weeks). I was already 15 weeks.

I had my pills put in at 1pm. It was over by 5:40pm. My situation. Was different as I stayed in hospital for mine. I had bad period cramp after half an hour. Then I had on and off contractions for an hour. Then I had a constant contraction which got more intense. I was sick from the pain.

at 4:30 I got an injection beginning with P for the pain and anti sickness injection. I fell asleep for 30 mins. Then when I woke up I went to the toilet and felt two things slip out of me. They felt tiny (and I was 15+3). The first (baby) should have been avocado sized but it didn’t feel that big. I feel like it was more a large grape. Then immediately after a bigger one passed which was placenta. Again, felt small really. Maybe this was to do with my injection and I couldn’t feel it.

the pain injection saved me and without it I think I would have had the same reaction as you. The pain was so bad I was writhing and throwing up and I was begging for more pain relief. I feel your pain and can’t believe you have to deal with this at home. Breaks my heart 😭

I had the opposite reaction to you where I ended up saying I’m glad I did it naturally and not the operation. And if i am unlucky enough to go through it again I think I’d choose this way again. I felt more in control and just felt so much relief and elation agree it. It’s also good to note I was severely poorly my entire pregnancy until the moment it was over.

Wishing for our rainbow babies! Sending lots of love!!!

wish we didn’t have to do this but sharing stories is so helpful!

Oh I’m so sorry. It’s not at all fair is it but well done for getting through it and hopefully our babies will come!
sending you lots of hugs!

I’m currently going through missed miscarriage only found out on thurs and decided to go home and make decision on treatment. I don’t know what to do, I’m so scared of seeing the fetus come out but I also don’t want surgery. It was very strange as the midwife said some people once they find out then their body realises and starts naturally. As soon as she said that I felt a little flood and thought I’d had a little wee. When I went to toilet it was blood, I then proceeded to lose amniotic fluid that was pinkish and I’ve had nothing since just a bit of brown spotting. This is my 2nd missed miscarriage but last time my body kicked in and I didn’t need any intervention. The waiting and not knowing what to do for the best is so hard.
Hope you ladies get your rainbow baby soon 🙏 🌈

You get a choice whether to see it or not. We chose not too and we didn’t at all.

there is obviously a chance you could by accident depending on how it happens but the midwife checks for you to make sure it’s there. We didn’t see it or find out anything about it.

I’ve decided I'm going to phone GAU tomorrow and see if I can have the medication in hospital 🤞🏻 It said admittance may be offered if over 10weeks or under if have other medical conditions. I should have been 11w2d but baby stopped at 9w2d. I’m hoping they allow me to as really don’t want to be at home.

Gosh, that just hit me like a brick with remembering what the pain was like.
ive had 3 MC’s now, my first 2 I had to have medical management, I thought that pain was bad, the cramps and the bleeding was ridiculous! My first one I passed a clot the size of my fist and was told off by my EPAU nursr for not going to the hospital with it as that wasn’t actually the baby, that was an abnormal clot that had come out as I was still carrying the pregnancy and had to be put on medical management to actually pass the pregnancy! That pain was easy after that first clot had been passed. Although I said to me partner ‘if that’s labour pain.. count me out’ yeah it’s nothing compared to what I encountered on my 3rd Mc!

the second one felt like an absolute breeze to go through and actually said I could probably go through it again if I had to.

unfortunately I had to. But very different.

my third, unknowing to me, I passed the pregnancy naturally!!

apparently my body couldn’t wait for the medical management side of things and decided to pass my pregnancy without it.

it felt like more than labour oh my goodness.

I’ve never felt pain like it, all night I was hunched over, I had to keep running to the toilet to pass the clots as I could feel everything coming out, every contraction there was something coming out and I felt the need to push. At one stage I just stayed on the toilet and my partner had to pull me off so he could use the loo🤣

He seemed so annoyed by the whole ordeal but was just upset, I want to say he wasn’t actually annoyed or angry, just really sad and because he’s a man, he’s just a different species entirely🤣🤣

he kept walking around the house like he didn’t know what to do with himself, mean while I’m sat in the stairs legs open wide fully clothed with a pad on like I’m going through labour, breathing techniques definitely helped.
he ended up running me a bath and helping me get in it as I just kept contracting, there was no end to it until the next day, I’d managed to get a little bit of sleep.
the next day I woke up like nothing had happened, until I went to the toilet, changed my clothes as I’d leaked through everything, pad, underwear, trousers, sheets all down to the mattress.
went to get back in bed and I felt like my vagina had prolapsed with the weird dropped feeling I had. I had to go back to the toilet instantly, and there it was, the final clot, the baby, it away just a ball, a hard ball.
not like a little human baby at all, just a bloody ball of hard squishy tissue.

i went back to the EPAU the following week and was told I’d passed nearly everything but still had some retained tissue, so had to take medical management, well that was a fucking breeze compared to what I had experienced that day having to go through it naturally.

2 words for that… never again🤣

im never doing it naturally again and if I do go full term, I’m having bloody gas and air and everything else inbetween!!