Have they made a mistake?

[AFeastForCrows]

This is going to sound ridiculous but I need someone to talk sense into me please.

Had some spotting last week at 9+3 and had a scan at EPAU. They said there was no heartbeat, this was confirmed by another person.

They then gave me the option of going home to let it happen naturally, medication followed by surgery if necessary.

My head was reeling so I opted for going home. Since then I have had no spotting, little cramping, literally no signs that anything is wrong. I’m still testing positive on tests 😢

I have my other children home for half term so have decided to wait until they go back on Monday and then have medication. I’ve had one MC before and I can’t do that with them in the house.

My mind keeps saying maybe they made a
mistake and if I take the tablets I will be ending a viable pregnancy - they wouldn’t make a mistake would they?? I’m really struggling to believe all this is happening 🥺

I'm so sorry for your loss. I have had 3 missed miscarriages (where you have no sign anything is wrong but then there's no heartbeat at the scan). The most recent was the most cruel as I still had horrible morning sickness even after the scan that confirmed there wasn't a heartbeat.

It's very, very unlikely they were wrong I'm afraid, especially if a second person confirmed it. I could tell on my scans when there wasn't a heartbeat, it was clearly not there anymore.

How sure are you of your dates? Did they take bloods to check hormone levels?

No, it's not a mistake - what size did the baby measure? Once they get to a certain size the heartbeat is clear.

I've had three pregnancies and had early scans on all of them. You can see the heartbeat flickering - it was conspicuous by its absence the time I miscarried. The MMC was detected at 10 weeks with the baby measuring 8 weeks, I continued to feel and test pregnant until a week or two after the surgery.

That said, don't be shy about asking for another scan if you would like, they may give you one if they have a slot. Or you could pay for a private one.

Usually EPAU do another scan a week later to 100% confirm the heartbeat is not there.
I’ve had 3 miscarriages, I never saw a heart beat with any of them unfortunately.
but I always went back a week later to confirm that there’s definitely no heartbeat.
can you request another scan from them to confirm?

however if this has been confirmed by 2 people now, there definitely will be no heartbeat and it’s a loss, I’m so sorry.

you will still test positive until the pregnancy has passed x

I’m so sorry I never came back to thank you all.

they definitely got it right as I started to miscarry over the weekend, ended up in hospital due to excessive bleeding and I’m now home after having pessaries for retained product. It’s been a very drawn out process but thank you all for your advice

Op so so sorry for your loss x