Please or to access all these features

Miscarriage/pregnancy loss

Find support and share your experiences on our Miscarriage forum. See also legal rights and support after baby loss.

Miscarrying 40+

2 replies

Rainbowbabe · 08/05/2024 11:09

Hey, I found out I was pregnant at 42. It was a shock but we were getting prepared and excited. I went for my dating scan at 7w 3d and was told my baby hadn’t progressed past 6w 5d and there was no heartbeat detected. I have sorted support from family who have told me this is a sign and to make sure I don’t have anymore. They suggested that I already have three and my partner has two of his own so enough is enough. But both of us have discussed it and wouldn’t mind trying again. I feel silly, especially after hearing that advise but feel having a baby together would bring our blended family closer and would be nice to experience parenthood together. Has anyone been in this situation. I feel others think women over 40 shouldn’t want more especially if they have kids already

OP posts:
FlameTulip · 08/05/2024 11:17

Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I don't think this is a "sign" as I don't believe in that sort of thing, and I don't believe that women over 40 shouldn't have babies. However, I do think that 5 kids between you is a lot, and that shared babies don't always bring a blended family closer together!

At the end of the day it's up to you and your partner though.

Springadorable · 08/05/2024 13:09

So sorry you're going through this. As above, don't think it's a sign from the universe. However, it is sadly part of the reality of pregnancies in your 40s. Much higher chance of chromosomal abnormalities and therefore higher miscarriage risk (or issues for the baby). Definitely something to consider when you already have kids who will be affected by a newborn either way.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page