Low mood

[Pringle2223]

Hi all just looking for advice/opinions I had two miscarriages last year (one in feb and one in august) and lost my job to redundancy just after the second miscarriage.

I have a new job now and have had some positive moments since (like getting engaged), but on the whole I still feel deeply unhappy. Like I’m just existing in life not really living. Is this normal? I feel like after a year I should be feeling different. I’m on anti-depressants and have tried upping the dose but that just makes me anxiety/intrusive thoughts way worse.

is anyone else the same?

Sorry to hear of your losses, totally normal to feel like this especially with losing a job too. Have you had time to process it? Do you feel talking therapies would be helpful?
I had a miscarriage earlier this year along with other life stuff and it's taken a real hit on me emotionally. I wake up feeling numb most mornings.
Take the time you need, try and foster some self compassion, you will get through this x

@Sunnydays12340987 Sorry to hear of your loss too.

I was going to try talking therapy but I’m not sure it would help tbh, I just feel that numbness like you said. Like I can cope most days but I just feel very numb and like a part of me is changed and now I’m not sure I’ll ever get the old me back. X

@Pringle2223 I am sorry for what has happened. It is a normal response to such torrid circumstances with the redundancy as well. Be kind yourself and do things which make you feel a bit nicer.

If you are in the UK the Petals charity can support with free talking therapy.

In February I was pregnant and both my parents became desperately unwell and ended up in different hospitals. My dad was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer and I then had to explain to my mother what was happening. I had my 20 week scan on 7th March and the baby had died at 17 weeks and 3 days. I had to be induced and ended up losing a lot of blood and needing theater and general anaesthetic. It was horrific. The bereavement midwifes at the hospital were great.and we are waiting on post mortem results.

Since then I have been focusing on helping my dad. My mum is back at home now. I went back to work after 4 weeks and have started personal training sessions, treated myself to some new clothes, facial and started gardening. I feel better getting out in nature and seeing friends.

@Scrumpy10 That is a lot to go through, I’m so sorry to hear that. I did a baby loss charity fundraiser in feb and was exercising a lot then which did help so maybe I should try to do that again. X

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I had three losses and just felt empty for a while after. Therapy helped, as did yoga (I had an amazing supportive teacher) and meditation. You’ve been through a lot, it’s not surprising it’s had an impact, but you have gone through the worst already and you will get back to yourself again.