To feel this exhausted? 😴

[Thorfire]

Hey MN,

i posted here about 10 days ago and had some very supportive kind advice. ❤️

in December 2023 I went through a natural miscarriage at 7 weeks.
i found out this month that at 8 weeks my second pregnancy didn’t have a heartbeat so I made the decision to have medical intervention and took the medicine to help induce a miscarriage. This time around I am experiencing extreme fatigue.
I passed so many blood clots and a lot of tissue. A lot!
I have bled for a week and it tapered off until yesterday when I passed a lot of tissue and started bleeding again (nothing too heavy).

My question is….since I started the miscarriage process I have felt very faint and light headed and extreme fatigue. I’ve been sleeping 12+ hrs and don’t feel any better, I can walk for a bit but
Finding it hard to leave the house of stay awake.
i expected an improvement by now.
I'm normally very active but I’m sleeping and sleeping with no improvement. Emotionally I am fine and just want to get back to work and feeling normal.

is this extreme fatigue normal?
I was signed off work for 2 weeks but the midwife said I could have more time off at the time I didn’t realise just how exhausted I would feel and thought I won’t need 2 weeks off. I’ll be back by Wednesday 🤦‍♀️
it almost feels like I’m recovering from bad flu.
I never felt this horrendous with my first mc.

does anyone have experience of this ? And how
long did it take you to feel back to yourself?

thank you so much for reading x

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

I know you say you're feeling fine emotionally, but the tiredness can be a sign of grief. I felt very similar after my second loss: I wanted to just get on with it and for things to be back to normal, but I also felt an overwhelming tiredness. Looking back I think it was a sign that I needed to stop and process what had happened. But at the time, it just felt too much as both losses were close together, and I don't think I'd had time to properly come to terms with the first loss before I was pregnant again, and then I found it too much to handle when I lost the second too. I found therapy super useful, including group sessions with the Miscarriage Association.

Everyone is different, and this might resonate with you, but either way, miscarriage is just really shit, so let yourself sleep if you need to - unless you're feeling otherwise unwell, in which case you should maybe go to the Drs to make sure there isn't an infection. Either way, I hope you feel better soon x

With losing a lot of blood you may have low hb, or low iron. I would maybe visit your gp and have an fbc done just to check your ok medically. Xx