BFF had baby on the day I got my period back after miscarriage.

[CheeryLemonStork]

Hi everyone,

I’m just needing some support and some stories of people who supported their loved ones through new babies while feeling devastated for yourself. I had a missed miscarriage at 10 weeks (first pregnancy) and took the tablets to miscarry. I have just started my first period post (and was hopeful to be pregnant again-another kicker). My closest friend had her beautiful baby just this morning, and I am actually so happy for her and talking with her about baby is helping, but I wish I could feel whole heartedly overjoyed.

How do you manage your feelings (especially with the PMS mindframe)?

Thank you for any support!
X

@CheeryLemonStork awww sweet I'm sorry for your loss. Yeah post MC periods double suck 😞
Sending you huge hugs and a hand hold.

My brother and SIL had their baby last Tuesday on what would have been my due date for my second MC. (I had 3 in 10 months). It really does pull on your heart doesn't it? I am genuinely happy for my brother and SIL though and don't feel bitterness towards them but the timing of it all just hits hard so I do know exactly how you feel. As it happens my oldest friend (timewise not age 😂) gave birth on 13/12 as well so it's like baby city round me, there's been three more pregnancy announcements and another birth through work (20/03). I suppose my advice is take each day as it comes. It's ok to smile, laugh and be happy. It's also ok to cry, shout and be sad. Take time for yourself, spend as much time with your DP and/or family and friends as you can and although it seems such a dark and lonely time right now, all of us here know how you feel and we're here to support and help you wherever we can. Sometimes telling a stranger is the best thing - whoever thought?

Be kind to yourself sweet 💐💐

Wow you have been through so much, thank you so much for replying. I really needed to hear this and you are so right sometimes talking to a stranger helps. Thank you for validating my feelings, helps so much.

Sending you love back!

@CheeryLemonStork awww no worries sweet.

Your feelings are valid - anyone who says or makes you feel otherwise you really need to steer clear of for now. This is an emotional minefield and there's no clear path for any of us. There's no allotted timeframe for 'getting better' I don't know if you ever truly heal all I know is that by taking each day as it comes, rediscovering the things and people you love, you can slowly but surely cope better with it. There's twists and turns along the way and it can get quite full on but then you turn a corner and things get brighter.

Keeping everything crossed for you if you're continuing with TTC sweet 💐💐

Thank you again, I’m going to save this post and come back to re read it whenever I need. I’m sorry you learnt the hard way but your advice is so comforting and helpful! Thank you!

@CheeryLemonStork no worries sweet, have a great weekend 💐💐

You don’t need to feel joyful

it‘s ok to feel shite