How do you have the courage to try again?

[pleasemumcanihave]

Just as the title really, how did you have courage to try again after a miscarriage?

I’m thankful to have one gorgeous child who is nearly 3, but it feels like someone is missing in our family and the age gap is growing. I had two miscarriages in the space of 6 months, one in June and one in November. So I can get pregnant but it seems I struggle to stay pregnant. With both, I saw a heartbeat but lost them at 9 weeks and 11 weeks - missed miscarriage at 12 week scan. With the second, there was a haematoma and something to do with the size of the sac that the doctor suspected something to do with a chromosomal abnormality but I didn’t have any testing so that isn’t confirmed. I’ve been on the waiting list for the recurrent loss clinic but it seems like forever. I’m 38 and apparently get hyperemesis with every pregnancy so I just feel like my time and energy is running out. I’m in my fertile window so it’s really weighing on me. I found out my b12 was low so have been addressing that, still taking folic acid, vitamin d and the usual pregnancy multivitamin. Do we just go ahead without any further testing?

@pleasemumcanihave I can relate to a lot of your post. I have a near 2.5 year old and had two MMC. The first one found at 12 week scan, passed away at 10 weeks in October. Got pregnant in December and had a heamatoma with that one and although my pregnancy got to 10 weeks they never grew to 6 weeks (there was a heartbeat at one point though).

I never had testing done so I just think of it as extremely bad luck (right now anyway). I'm 35 this year and have had a couple of months off due to holiday in April. I'm thinking that we'll give it one more shot, getting pregnant doesn't seem to be the issue at least! X

Hi OP. I thought I read on here that from late 30s onwards, they're supposed to see you quite quickly at the recurrent miscarriage clinic. I don't know what the rules are around that, but might be worth looking into. Two posters said they had to point this out to the hospital in order to be seen more quickly.

I dont know whether your GP will help?
Im on my 3rd MC, and my gp has said if i had a 3rd they would do a full blood work which would test for things earlier than the miscarriage clinic? So im not too sure whether it may be worth going to your GP for a full blood work.

For the MC clinic, i was told between 3 and 6 month as then your body should be back to normal and your own hormones are then running through your body?

How long have you been waiting for the miscarriage clinic so far?

I would say its down to personal preferrence. Do you wait? Or do you keep trying?

Have just realised I have responses - sorry! And sorry for everyone's losses. It's tough.

After I made that post I arranged an appointment privately and he's sending me for a hycosy because he suspects from doing a scan in his clinic that I have a heart shaped uterus and wants to confirm it. Bizarre that it has never been mentioned before. Very nervous about the procedure but seems like it has the potential to bring some clarity.