Last year I had a miscarriage at 16 weeks. On Friday I found out at our 12 week scan the baby had no heartbeat, despite previous scans being ok and commencing on aspirin. Monday I had surgical management and I am still very much recovering for that physically and emotionally well I feel nothing which probably isn’t good.
as I am over 35 (37) and I have had 2 consecutive miscarriage’s I have been referred and accepted to the miscarriage clinic. However they had said they will only test after two proper periods and then finish testing after 12 weeks and so it might take a total of 6 months and I am not to get pregnant during that time.
this is where I’m inpatient and quite frankly pissed off with the world. Why does it have to take so long, 6 months is such a long time when all you want is to be pregnant and actually deliver a baby. I’m feb up of collecting paper notes and bloody bereavement boxes with teddies.
in being transparent I do have a 3 year old who is the literal love of my life, I desperately want to give him a sibling.
anyone else in the early referral stages or just wanting to have a rant at life too more than welcome.
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Feeling infuriated and inpatient
Nic2908 · 27/03/2024 16:12
Scrumpy10 · 27/03/2024 20:51
I am so sorry for your losses.
I am in a similar situation. I had the 20 week scan 7th March and there was no heartbeat. Measuring 17 weeks 3 days. I am 43 and this was an IVF pregnancy after years of trying for a baby. I had to be induced and ended up having surgery under general anaesthetic as lost a lot of blood. Husband and I have requested a post mortem but results can take many months.
We have frozen embryo to use but we don't want to go ahead until we know if there was anything specific which went wrong. We are both in shock as everything went well with the 12 week scan and all the screening was OK. I have had my blood results back for infections and everything was normal. I know I need to give myself time to heal but it seems so long. We have also been told we may not get any answer at all and it could just be inconclusive.
I don't feel bereaved as it doesn't feel like we lost a family member but terribly sad at a future will not be and we desperately wanted. I don't know if this is normal. I suppose everyone deals with things differently.
Scrumpy10 · 01/04/2024 21:53
@ludocris you poor soul. I suppose at least you can start to recover now but it does sound like an ordeal. I didn't even know that could happen.
I am starting to think it is a real miracle of life to get pregnant, stay pregnant and deliver a healthy baby with all the things which can go wrong.
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