just need to talk to some one who has experience of this please.

[donbean]

Having had the tablet to induce mc yesterday, im having some very mild period type rumblings. no bleeding.

Tomorow ive got to go in for the pessaries to really get things going.
Whta i want to ask about is:

1. what sort of pain relief will i get, cos its gonna hurt...allot?
2. How long do said pesseries take to kick in and get things going? 3)what should i take in with me in terms of entertainment because i may be distracted by agonising rip roaring labour type agonies...
3. cant remember the name of the tab i took, any one know it so i can google it please?

I am very sorry that you are going through this.

How many weeks are you?

Hello donbean,

I am also sorry that you are having to go this route.

i have done this twice. The first time at 18 weeks and the second time with twins at 16 weeks

1. The tablet I took was called Cytotec.

The first time the tablet was sufficient and I 'delivered' at home with a midwife present.

The second time I went in to hospital for the pesseries.

I had a bereavement midwife with me from start to finish and I hope that you have the same. She was such a Godsend.

1. I did not find that the pain was unbearable (not much worse than menstrual cramps) but I was offered everything from Paracetamol on up. I kept thinking that things would get worse and so I was planning on taking meds but never found the need. Having said that: Don't be a hero. It is pointless to suffer physical pain when the emotional pain is sufficient.

1. It was a few hours before things were moving along swiftly. The build up was slow.

1. DH came with me but I did bring magazines and playing cards that just gathered dust in the end.

Please feel free to ask more questions.

donbean how far along were you? I was 11weeks but had a nautral miscarriage. I only had one night of horrible cramping, like very bad period pains. I had to stop what I was doing and squeeze DH's hand. I was told to take whatever I wanted for the pain, ie paracetemol, ibuprofen or aspirin.

I'm very sorry for your loss.

cadmum I just wanted to say I'm so sorry for you for both of your lost pregnancies You must be an incredibly strong person.

it will be painful but not like a birth but more than a period - depends very much how pregnant you are.

Painrelief is a very perssonal thing. I had pethedine the first time and this makes you kind of out of it and not know what is going on. I regret it now as I think it would have been easier to deal with if I was in the moment - but as I siad it is a very personal thing.

Cadmum- my heart goes out to you too.

ask any questions you like.

I will think about you.

(my firdst was at 20 weeks, my second at 12weeks - not induced. )

am only 7 weeks this time.

last time needed gas n air, was 13 weeks. laboured for 2 days.

time before that was 7 weeks and paracetamol didnt touch the pain.

been to boots got strongest they sell.
wondered what i will get in hospital.

BBBee:

I have just had a quick look on donbean's other thread and I think that she is 7 weeks....

20 and 12 weeks. You must feel like me about the first 12 weeks not being much of a safe benchmark...

Thank you for your kind thoughts. I still have 'what if' moments BUT we do have four healthy, happy children so I am very blessed! DD1 is so pleased with her little sister (2 earlier this month) and life would have been much different had she had 4 brothers...

PrePG: Thanks... I am anything but strong. I had to get on with life because we already had 2 and then 3 children. My heart really, really goes out to those women who have such losses without having children to go home hug...

I hope that you have both gone on to have successful pregnancies...

sorry, sounds like im an old pro doesnt it....have never experienced the "medical intervention" as they put it.

had gas and air in ambulance which i called after 2 days and heavy heavy blood loss and crawling round floor on all fours.
was sent home next day after passing it all in the ambulance.

home to hug even!

so it sounds like they are pretty hot on the painkillers side of things, thats good.

just dont fancy the thought of the gynae ward, and bieng distressed and in pain in public as it were.

I think they give you what you ask for - after my 12week one I got very strong codeine - I think the doctor felt sory for me as I was very distressed.

It is really good that you are thinking about it now as at the time these decisions seem weird and I just went along with anything. I don't think it will be terribly painful physically, but psychologically it will.

Prepare yourself as much as you can. Things come away from you and as I remember it was more than I imagined. Not painfully, but shocking. I think I was expecting it to be like a period but it was more fluid and like blood. I remember that I saw the baby too. It might be worth thinking now if you want to or not and what to look out for.

I hope you get good sypathetic care - it is very hit and miss and I remember 'coping' with a lot of this on my own in a hospital toilet.

donbean: I am sorry...

It does sound like you are a pro. at something that nobody should EVER experience.

Do you have children?

so x posts.

I don;t remember it as being like 'screaming' in pain - it was bearable, but just psychologically hard.

Cadmum - thank you.

I have two lovely children now who drive me nuts and colour my world.

BBbe, no baby thanks goodness, just sac n gubbins to pass.

Thinking ahead thats all.

Feel ok about the whole thing tbh. Think its because there is not a baby and never was one. dont feel like ive lost a baby iyswim.
tis a practice run and although we wont have a baby this Oct/Nov we WILL have one next spring instead...so great joy to look forward to next year.
In fact this time next year, i aim to be counting down the days to delivery.

feel confident of this.

good for you - good mindset.

I m/c and got pregnant again quickly and gave birth to my son. I wish the same for you. Best wishes and it sounds hard but if you can relax your body it helps the pain.

Focus on next year.

Yes, thank goodness, i have a boy who is nearly 5.
so i kow that i am capable of a succesful pregnancy, jsut not my time just yet for number 2.

Brilliant attitude!

Now you just have to make it through the next couple of days...

chocolate you know IS the cure for just about everything so i plan to masage it into my gums every 2-5 mins tomorow.

will of course have to steal ds's easter eggs as i am rather worried about the expirary date on them all....there are many, BUT this is medicinal dont forget..

yes - as it a duvet and dvds. Stock up and rest your body and mind.

x

Donbean good luck and will be thinking of you. I have just mc'd at 7 weeks too but didnt have anything like the pain you are discussing here, just period type pain - DS has no Easter eggs left as I too firmly believe in the calming influence of the cocoa bean. Take care. Maybe we'll be in the same AN group eh?

Thanks quarkee that is very reassuring. Been having period pains all day but no bleeding.

hopefully it wont be too sore.

Hi donbean,

I'm so sorry for your loss . I had a blighted ovum in 2006, and went for medical management in hospital. I'll try to tell you what I remember...they put me in a private room on the Gynae ward, as I needed access to a private bathroom, for obvious reasons. Hopefully this will be the case for you; my DH was also allowed to stay with me the whole time.

1. I got paracetamol and an injection of something - morphine? It took a lot of the pain away but I was still 'with it'.

2. Pessaries took an hour or two to take effect - was having strong period-type cramps once they began working.

3. I read a book and did crossword puzzles, but after a while found it hard to get comfortable, so just lay on my front and watched the TV.

4. I've just googled it and it will probably have been mifepristone. I took it on the Sunday and went into hospital on the Tuesday - had a bit of bleeding in the meantime, but needed the pessaries to get everything going, IYKWIM.

Unfortunately I was one of the 2% of patients whom the procedure didn't work for, so after 2 nights in hospital I had to go to theatre for a D&C - this is rare though, and likelihood is that it will be over (physically, that is) within 6 to 9 hours.

I'll be thinking of you - you sound a lot like I did in March 2006. I was determined to think positively afterwards, we started TTC after a couple of months and the result is now asleep in his cot - he's 7 months old

Hi donbean. Just wanted to say sorry that you're going through this, and will take you off the October stats.

Hope the weekend wasnt too bad donbean - been thinking of you.