Booked in for surgical management tomorrow.

[Nic2908]

Hi.

last year, I lost my baby girl at 16 weeks resulting in me delivering and subsequently burying her.

Roll on just over a year and at 11+6 I got my nipt results back that showed high probability of Turner’s syndrome and required to go for cvs/amnio and generic councelling. I had just gotten my head around all of that and then at the 12 week scan on Friday I was told that there was no heartbeat and baby had stopped growing somewhere around 8+4. I had a scan at 8+2 at EPU and baby had been beautiful with a strong heartbeat.

im terrified for tomorrow, I’ve already started bleeding but it’s all old and definately not passed any tissue or clots so I’m hoping it can still go ahead. I have a 3 year old at home and that combined with labouring and delivering at 16 weeks, I just cannot do this any other way.

does anyone have experience of surgical?
multiple miscarriages? Would like to generally give me a hand hold it really would be so appreciated.

I am sending you a huge hand hold and I am so sorry to hear of your losses...

I had surgical management just over 2 weeks ago and it went really well. Bit painful for a couple days, light bleeding for about 4/5 days, huggge hormone crash at 3 days (which unlucky for me coincided with mothers day - was v difficult). But since then I have felt physically fine, and emotionally much better too. I had a negative preg test after 2 weeks.

I hope it all goes well tomorrow. Falling asleep with the nurse holding my hand, I felt so looked after. It will be OK.

Let us know how you are. Sending loads of love.

I'm so sorry for both your heartbreaking losses. I recognise your name from the October group. I have just left it myself. I was supposed to be 10 weeks yesterday, but confirmed on Wednesday last week there was no longer a heartbeat. I had surgical management on Friday.

Honestly, I'm very glad I chose this method. I was treated very kindly by all who were involved and the procedure went as well as it could. I went in at 7am Friday morning and left just before 5pm same day. The general anaesthetic made me feel rough for 24 hours, and I had a bit of pain but nothing that couldn't be controlled by paracetamol and ibuprofen. Bleeding was a bit heavy at first but slowed down after a few hours. Now I'm just spotting.

I don't think the mental/emotional side of things has really hit me yet. There's a lot to unpack, but it will come in time. I hope you get to read this before your surgery, and that you feel a little less alone. It's a lonely camp to be in, and I hope you have plenty of support on your side. Let us know how you go if you feel able. Best of luck.

Hi ladies,

thank you so much for your kind words. I’m all booked in and just sat waiting now. She said that when she is in to pop in the suppository it’s a good sign as they will more than likely call for me in the next half hour. We have been given the option to send the baby for genetics so we’re opting for that so we can finally know about the turners. I’m not really sure how I am feeling, I don’t think I’m feeling anything just numb. Just want to get to the other side of today.

@KittyFantastica i recognised your name too. I’m so sorry that you have been through your loss. Did you have any symptoms at all?

@UrsulaSings123 thanks for the hormone crash warning. I had completely forgotten about that.

you are both so lovely.

@Nic2908 that's OK, someone warned me about it and it was useful to know as it really hit me. I'm quite an emotional person anyway.

I hope things go as smoothly as they can in the circumstances.

Hi @Nic2908, yes it was about 45 minutes to an hour after they put the tablets in for me that they took me down to surgery.

I had no symptoms at all except very mild nausea and food aversions for the whole time. I'd had a scan three weeks ago after some strong cramping that showed baby was behind in growth, which didn't bode well because my dates were exact. My last period before this pregnancy was also a miscarriage (a chemical that time) and I'd tracked ovulation religiously. I'd heard of plenty of people having a good outcome still, so had hopes. My body had no idea baby had died during the ten days between the first scan and the second. First scan showed baby looking small, but still wiggly, heartbeat etc.

I hope you don't have to wait too much longer. Highly recommend some cold grapes and a hot water bottle for the next few days. Small things make a big difference when it comes to comfort and looking after your body. Be gentle with yourself.

Hi ladies. I ended up going down about 3pm yesterday and discharged around 8oclock. I have a little pain but paracetamol and codeine is doing the trick nicely. I also don’t have a lot of bleeding at all, it is very minimal. How were you both afterwards?

It was a bit painful for a couple days, light bleeding for about 4/5 days. Got a negative preg test less than 2 weeks after and ovulated shortly after that so hopefully everything is all back to normal. That's good it went OK, take care of yourself. I felt pretty worn out for a few days after.

Hi @Nic2908
I had multiple miscarriages.
I had surgical management for all of them. There was minimal blood loss afterwards and very slight pain.

I did have four children in between the losses.

My first two pregnancies were miscarriages but the third one resulted in a daughter. I hope you go on to have a live baby after all your sadness.

Hope you're healing well @Nic2908. I'm glad you were in and out the same day.

I bled quite a bit just after surgery, but it slowed right down within a few hours. I'm 5 days post-surgery now and don't seem to have any bleeding today. I have, however, started having some small stabbing pains low down in my cervix. I'll see how I go today and maybe give EPU a ring if they get worse.