Waiting to miscarry - practical question

[ludocris]

Hi,

I found out at a private scan last night that my baby stopped growing at 8 weeks and has no heartbeat. I should be 9w4d. I've had no bleeding yet and this morning very mild cramps.

I've taken today off work but tomorrow am due to attend a conference and deliver some presentations. It's about an hours drive away. I'm worried that the bleeding could start when I'm there. Can anyone tell me whether it's likely to start heavily? I'm wondering whether I should not go.

Thanks, in sadness.

@ludocris I'm sorry for your loss, I've been where you are and it's so painful.

Unfortunately each person's experience is so very different, some have spotting for a few days and nothing else, some people (like me) have it come on relatively quickly and I couldn't leave the toilet for a good 4 hours.

If you've started having mild cramps there is a chance it could come on quickly and heavily and for some there's quite a bit of pain too.

In all honesty I wouldn't go just in case ❤️

In all honesty I wouldn’t go. It could come on very quickly and even a nighttime pad may not be enough.

so sorry you’re going through this and having to think of these things.

I wouldn’t go either, mine happened very quickly (after a long wait though) and I found it very distressing. Def wouldn’t have wanted to be away from home. Hope your work is understanding. X

So sorry for your loss. It's really impossible to predict. I had a miscarriage very quickly (no scan before though, totally underexpected), it all happened within 2-3 hours and (sorry TMI), I couldn't leave the bathroom whilst it happened. I wouldn't risk being away from home.

I’m so sorry you’re going through this

I had similar at 11 weeks and no, I wouldn’t go if I were you. The pain and bleeding was quite bad in my case, more than I thought it would be. I would stay at home and be close to your bed and toilet just in case.

Hi,
I don't want to hijack your thread- but I'm
In the same situation as you.
Holding your hand in solidarity.
I would be 10 weeks, but scan earlier this week found no heartbeat.

For what it's worth- I'm having time off work.
If anything did happen in a work setting, I think it would be quite traumatic and upsetting.

Sorry your going through this too

I'm really sorry, it is such a sad thing to go through.

Mine (12wks) came on slowly over a few days after mild spotting but I was increasingly uncomfortable. I wouldn't have wanted to be away from home.

💐

I wouldn’t go either. It might not happen for a while but if it does you might not be in a fit state to do your work.

Sorry for your loss. The bleeding could start at any time and be heavy and painful. It was for me. Or you may be fine. I wouldn’t take the risk.

So sorry OP, it's horrible knowing it could happen. I echo the other posters and wouldn't go.
When I went through a MMC I did go to work but it was fairly local and I was still scared that it could happen suddenly. I wouldn't have travelled far just in case.
As it happened, I ended up with surgical management as nothing at all happened naturally, not even a twinge. I couldn't bear the wait any more and just wanted to have that worry taken away.

Thanks all for the advice and solidarity. So sorry for all of you too. Life can be cruel.