How to feel better after MC and before trying again

[ThatBlueBee]

I had a MC of my first pregnancy at 9w3d, 2 weeks ago. It was the most painful and traumatic thing that has happened to my body. I am still bleeding and still recovering, and feel so unhappy that it happened and scared about trying again.

What can I do now to start feeling better? My body feels awful and my life and future feel so bleak now that all of the excitement about having a baby are gone. I would just like some advice on the small things I or my partner can do during this time that will help me to start feeling a bit more happy and hopeful.

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve been there. It’s a cliche, but just give yourself time. I remember my yoga teacher telling me that my body would take as long as I had been pregnant for re-equalise. I’m not sure what that means in practice, but it gave me an excuse to be really gentle with myself and to feel like I had a good reason to (although that sounds silly to say now). My husband and I also made sure to do plenty of lovely things together, it really helped remind me of why we wanted to add to our family, and also, at the same time, really cherish what we had together. Wishing you all the best

Hello, I had a MMC on Feb 16th. I just leaned into my sadness for a while and just let myself cry and rage and just feel everything. I love reading so I bought some books, I ate chocolate, I watched utter trash.I have a dog and I walked with her 4 miles a day and often cried on the walk but when I got home I usually felt slightly better. I’m also a teacher so I’m usually in work in term time so me and DH went away for a few days and did lots of big walks and went for meals and just talked and talked. It’s been a rotten time but I promise it does get better xxx

Can you afford some private counselling? This made a massive difference for me.