Total loss of attraction towards partner after miscarriage

[JordanPeterson]

Is it normal for a woman to harbour feelings of repulsion towards her partner after a miscarriage?

If the woman is avoiding all physical contact with her partner due to a fear of pregnancy & the man is hurt by her emotional/physical distance how can they overcome this disconnection?

If the man expressing his hurt at the lack of intimacy & this has put his partner off, is it something the woman has a responsibility to work on?

Is it reasonable if the woman no longer want to touch, kiss or cuddle & the man for him to choose to sleep in a different room until she is ready to be intimate again?

If the miscarriage was several weeks ago, is it normal to have resumed a sexual/intimate relationship by now?

Or is the total loss of attraction a sign that the relationship is doomed?

[RememberZen]

Suffering a miscarriage can be both mentally and physically hard. It can sometimes take six weeks or more for the miscarriage to be physically over. Grieving the loss of the baby that would have been, is something that is ongoing. Don't rush your partner, give them space if that's what they need, but let them know you're there for them every step of the way, be patient, be understanding, be kind. I can only say from my own experience, that both the physical and emotional emptiness I felt after the loss was immensely hard. I hope you can both get through this together, I'm sorry for your loss.

[JordanPeterson]

Thank you @RememberZen

Sorry you have been through it & appreciate your insight

It is me that has had the miscarriage

As it's something people don't talk about it's so difficult to know what's to be expected

[RememberZen]

It is very difficult, and you're right, there's no way to prepare for how you'll feel after such a loss, you just feel how you feel.

I'm sorry you're in this hard place right now. Don't put pressure on yourself, it takes as long as it takes to deal with your feelings and balance yourself out.

It's easy to feel alone, it's easy to push people away, who we feel may not understand what we are going through. Each individual deals with it in different ways I suppose. Talking helps. There are lots of supportive women on here who have been through similar things and opening up to your partner can help, especially if they are trying to help you.

I really hope you start to feel better, let your body and mind heal. You'll need time.