Trying again after miscarriage

[MisssMarion]

I'm 4 days post surgical management and all I can think about is trying again... I don't think I want to start trying before my period comes back because of the date uncertainty it will cause which I'm not sure I can handle (after a MMC where I was sure of my dates but was still questioned by EPU). This means 4-6 weeks (in theory) + whatever time it takes to get pregnant again... it feels like an eternity and it's killing me as the days seem to go by very slowly since I found out about my MMC.
Can you share your experience post surgical management and trying again? When? Anything special you did? Success stories?

[bessness]

I'm currently going through a miscarriage after a MMC diagnosis this week & was only given the option of medical management. Awful, and I feel the same as you I'm desperate to try again but unsure of when? I don't know how long this will go on for or anything. So no advice, but know you're not alone

[ThelastRolo20]

@MisssMarion I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm in a similar boat as in I'm waiting until April to try again as we're going on hols, but my surgery was late Jan so I VERY reluctantly agreed to a 3 month break....it has been the slowest 3 months of my life 😂 if you're period comes in the next 4-6 weeks we'll likely be trying around the same time!

I think a lot of people pin their hopes of getting pregnant again very quickly, I've found talking to people it takes the same amount of time on average as pre MC. Some fall straight away, others take a few months for cycles to regulate. For what it's worth my first period came back exactly 4 weeks post surgery and was very normal. I'm due my next period sometimes this week so I'm fairly happy that we'll be in a good place to try in April x

[ByLivelyDreamer]

@MisssMarion sending you so much love. I am 3 days post surgical management for MMC. Second MMC and I am absolutely devastated. Desperately want to get pregnant again but unsure when to start trying too and how soon I can start ovulation testing again etc. also was sent away with very little info. Here for mutual support if it helps x

[Objectiontime]

I had an MMC in the Autumn. It took six weeks for AF to return and have been trying since. No luck so far, sadly.

[californiacooper]

I had surgical management a week ago Thursday. I want to be trying again asap. I stopped bleeding and then started again, I have no idea if this is a period or still
Due to
The mc

[esb27]

I can't share anything post miscarriage yet but sending lots of love, totally understand that feeling. I had my surgical management on 9th Feb, still no period. I can't even try again when it does come back as I'm having a hysteroscopy for my sub-septate early April then I get coils in to help with healing for 4 weeks, then I'm getting a biopsy to help with research Tommy's are doing a couple weeks after that. So we won't be able to try until June time and that is killing me!
I guess you are super fresh from your surgery so it's still a constant reminder. Just try to be kind to yourself, and if you can plan in some fun days out or evenings out with your partner/friends that works (it helped me). Of course I still constantly think about it but it does give you other things to focus on/look forward to. You got this!

[Rosesanddaisies1]

Do give yourself time to physically and emotionally recover. i felt so compelled to try again after a MC but we decided to wait a couple of months, and I'm so glad we did. I had some counselling, and when we did start trying again I was so much more of a positive headspace. it's a massive thing to go through and you might want time to process it.