I've had a really bad few months, and would love to just chat about things/ look for strength, unfortunately we had to had IVF which was hard after 8 years of trying, we were so happy to have our embryo transfer on the 23rd of October and it worked we could not believe our luck and felt like we’d hit the jackpot ive never ever been so happy, we had 3 scans saw the baby’s heart beat 3 times, saw the mid wife, we were so excited but when we went to the 12 week scan on the 27th of December our whole world fell apart and we were told there was no heartbeat, I’d had a missed miscarriage and still had all my pregnancy symptoms but the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks, I was devastated, the next few days were incredibly hard and I cried non stop, I’ve never felt emotional pain like it not even when my dad died who I loved dearly, I’m not sure if it was because the road was so long and I had to fight so hard to get pregnant. I wanted to miscarry naturally as I was worried about messing with my body or scarring as I knew I wanted to try again as soon as possible, I waited 10 days nothing happened so opted for medical management, this did not work so the EPU recommend surgical management, I they had an EPRC surgical at what should of been 16 weeks l, I thought this would be over with quickly and was calculating when I could try another embryo transfer as we have 2 in the freezer but things went from bad to worse, I nearly died in surgery due to an abnormal artery in my uterus that they never would of known it was there if it wasn’t for the pregnancy, I lost nearly 3 litres of blood and had a blood transfusion and spend the next few days on a ventilator in intensive care, they said had I of had a spontaneous miscarriage or the medical managment worked it would of been a different story and I probably wouldn’t be here now, they weren’t sure I would even come out of ICU, so I am grateful to still be here, but I am struggling now with the uncertainty, will I be able to do another transfer, if I can could I mentally prepare for that and put my partner and family through that, I have a follow up appointment with the consultant and the fertility clinic in 2 weeks but I’m feeling so lost and finding things hard, I’m 30 and just want to be a mum more than anything.
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Francescarae · 06/03/2024 18:06
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