Should I try for a second baby?

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Hi,
I am 39 year old lady and will be 40 in 6 months. I had a complicated obstetrics history. I had 2 ectopic pregnancies (one tube removed), 4 miscarriages, 4 failed IVF and in 2021 I ended up with a lovely baby girl. she is perfect in every way.
We tried for our second baby and just realised that my 10 week old fetus heartbeat has stopped. Its hard going through this journey again. My husband does not want to try for another baby as he is worried that we may end up with a sick baby or something might happen to me and we ruin our perfect family. Because I lost my baby now I want to start again to bring a sibling to my daughter. I am so lost, in one way I don't want to ruin my perfect family on other hand I want another baby. Please help me to make a decision? I am lost with emotions.

Sorry for your loss. I don't think that now is a good time to make that decision, it's a very upsetting and stressful time. Deal with the miscarriage, both physically and emotionally, and then see how you both feel. When i had a MC, I thought there was no way I could ever be pregnant again but after a couple of months I felt better and was happy to try again.

I'm so sorry for your loss. We had an easy time conceiving our first boy, but then a very difficult journey (two miscarriages, an ectopic, tests, IVF, more tests, surgery, more IVF) and I had moments during that journey that I didn't want to continue, and there were also moments where my husband didn't. We now have a beautiful and bashy 21-month old boy added into our family, but it is largely because we didn't both give up at the same time. Give yourself time. Give your husband time. We would sometimes make decisions that we wouldn't try for a couple of months, but would then discuss it - or would continue for, say, six months, then talk again. It helped to take the pressure off because we weren't making big decisions, just agreeing what we both felt comfortable with right now. Wishing you all the best