I had my 12/11 weeks misscariage confirmed by the epu today in a rather cold and harsh manner tbh. I was with the nurse for all of 5 minutes, she gave me no information, allowed me to ask no questions and was really stiff and annoyed at my partner when he asked questions. She didn't mention any kind of counselling, didn't even give us a leaflet. Let alone one of the miscarriage care packages that my partners mum and her friend make for the hospital and actually dropped of 150 of them last night to the ward we was on 🙄 🤷🏼♀️
Not sure what her problem was but her behaviour was honestly more upsetting than being told we had miscarried.
My bleeding has stopped after a rather large and graphic 5 hour stint of it on Thursday night. But the scan has confirmed I have retrained some ' tissue' as she so kindly put it. Now the issue is, since about 6pm I feel like something is stuck down stairs.. I haven't dared feel around as my cervix is open and I'm scared of infection. But I can feel some kind of hard lump for lack of better word and it's quite uncomfortable.. she gave us the ward and told us she would be there untill 10 pm tonight but I really don't want to speak to her.
Other than that she's told me to take a home pregnancy test in 3 weeks and to call the epu if it's positive.
Now I don't know what to do about this lump? Or if to even do anything.. I'm absolutely petrified of getting an infection. I have a 7 month old and 2 year old and really need to be back to normal to look after them... but I'm so heartbroken and really don't think I can face her to ring and talk about it if I'm honest. We are going to make a complaint about her behaviour.. ( a lot more than what I've put in to detail here )
Do I call 111 ? Wait and ring gp in the morning ? Try and remove said lump myself with very very clean hands ? Or just ignore and hope it goes away on it's on ?