Extreme bleeding during a misscarrige

[Star97]

Hi looking for advise, really sorry about long post just can’t find someone who’s had a similar situation as me….
ps I hope I’ve posted this in the right place

in January I found out I was pregnant after along time of trying then giving up so we was so happy and surprised went for a early scan as we just couldn’t wait and wanted to make sure baby was in the right place and we just couldn’t keep the excitement in as as I’ve just said tried for along time then gave up but we was told at the private scan she couldn’t really see anything so she referred us to the epu I went the next day on the 9th of Feb and they done the internal scan were she actually found 2 sacs but that the dates diddnt match the size of the Sacs/ yolk so she prepared us for the worst and was told to come back in 10 days to see if one or either sac progressed or not as I do have pcos with irregular periods but sadly on the 19th of Feb it was confirmed our little sacs were empty and the other not progressed so I was then told I had miscarried but I still felt pregnant with all symptoms but it was our daughters birthday the next day so I just couldn’t take it all in and asked to go home to think about the next steps as the nurse gave me the options of passing the miscarriage naturally, medical management or surgical management and she said she would give me a call in a few days but she never did and because I was so early on and reading about it I thought I would be okay to do it naturally and it would just come away…

a week later I was bleeding but very light with sever pain and I had a smell to the blood ( really sorry for tmi) so asked to come in for a scan, I went for the scan and told the baby was still there and because of the pronlonged Misscarrige it would be for the best to have medical or surgical management now as I had a risk of infection so had bloods done and the doctor said they was okay then she insisted that I’m at no risk of infection and I should be okay to wait another week to pass it naturally because I was so early on I ended up going home even more devistated because I just wanted this torture over now.
then two days later I started passing some small clots and the bleeding got heavier then I went to the toilet and how I can only describe it was it was like a tap on full flow the blood just kept gushing out of me every time I breathed out a big gush off blood would come gushing out it was all over my bathroom my sofa I soaked through two thick bath towels and all my pants and top then my partner rang 999 and I soaked all their bed in blood then the bed in a&e it was not stopping I thought I was going to die I had never seen so much blood loss I was told about a lot of blood loss but surely not that much I then felt like I needed a wee and ambulance woman took me to the toilet and tried to grab a bucket to catch it but she couldn’t find anything and as I sat on the toilet to pass urine we just heard all these clots coming from me and the blood was still pouring from me and she was sure I had passed the baby by then as the bleeding subsided and was no we’re near as heavy as it had been for the past hour so I got to the ward at 4:30 am told I had a infection and the bleeding is either due to I’ve finally passed the baby or because of the infection and told I was be kept in and to have a scan first thing in the morning.
then on Thursday the sac with the baby is still there it hadn’t moved even after all the doctors and even the ambulance woman and the nurses were very sure because of the amount of clots and blood I would of have passed it but I haven’t so I have been let home tonight to carry on with my antibiotics and I’ve got to go back Monday morning for a scan then surgery Tuesday morning.
please can someone tell me if they have had a similar situation I feel so alone and I have felt so traumatised in the last three days as a miscarriage isn’t traumatic enough on it’s own again I am really sorry the the extreme long read

Anyone please?

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. I haven't experienced a miscarriage but I had bleeding similar to this recently (am menopausal) and it's so frightening. I would suggest keeping an eye on your temperature to make sure an infection doesn't start, and keep your fluids up. Did they give you anything for the bleeding? Tranexemic acid?
I hope things improve for you very soon. Look after yourself - this must be traumatic with the extreme bleeding on top of your miscarriage.

Thankyou for your reply and I’m sorry you’re going through somthing your self to it is very scary seeing the amount of blood isn’t it and I have an infection they have given me two lots of antibiotics and nope they haven’t given me anything for the bleeding as when I passed what I thought was the sac with a lot of other clots the bleeding and slowed down a lot and my haemoglobin levels levelled out surprisingly but that’s the the most upsetting thing the pregnancy is latching on inside me and after all off that bleeding I’ve still got to pass the miscarriage

I am so sorry you’re going through this. I haven’t been in the same situation, but I also had a loss that was very scary and I ended up in hospital. It’s a lot to process, especially on top of everything else. Don’t feel worried about advocating for what you need right now. Wishing you all the best 💐

Thankyou so much for your reply and I’m so sorry for your loss too and I have just felt like I’ve been passed from pillar to post and so deflated I’ve not been able to grieve properly because I’ve been so scared of what’s happening to me and trying my best to hide it all from my daughter and Thankyou and you take care to

This did, sort of, happen to me. I bled for 5 weeks after the miscarriage but a scan showed I had passed the sac I just can't remember how long that took. Less than two weeks I think.

I mean it would ease off and then I would wake in a puddle of blood. Another time I was standing in a shop and soaked through my jeans. It was so traumatic and I did go back to the hospital in the first two weeks but they said I was fine (this was in 2007).

I had two full term births either side of that mc and haemorrhaged after both. One at home which was shocking and awful and the other while still in hospital which was the least traumatic of the three. My feeling was that I am just prone to losing a lot of blood. I don't remember there being any great concern from the doc's pov. But I kept the worry to myself and we were on holidays for two of those weeks 😳, we thought it best to stick with out original plans and maybe it was better that I was distracted.

I still think it was a v shocking thing to have happened and you have all my sympathy. I was 9 weeks pregnant and when they first scanned I was still pregnant and there was a heartbeat but I was bleeding.

I hope it gets easier for you soon.
Wrt the mc I was told it would get easier after the baby's due date and it did.

@Star97 so sorry this is happening to you. I have been waiting 2 weeks to have a further scan but I have been in so much pain i went back to hospital on Thursday night...they gave me strong painkillers and ruled out infection. Up until this point I only had brown discharge and small clots.
Yesterday morning I started increased bleeding. I totally understand as it feels like I am doing a wee as is just gushing out. Yesterday it lasted about an hour and today a bit longer. I am back in the Epu tomorrow for my scan.
It's really frightening, try not to be on your own.
If you keep bleeding i think you should go back to hospital. I hope you are okay. I'll check in tomorrow after my appointment.

hi @Star97 , I’m really sorry for your loss and trauma.
I had a miscarriage last year when I was about 12 weeks along.
I had been told to expect something like a heavy period, but it was nothing like that. It was like what you’d expect if part of your body was severed. Like you, I also experienced severe blood loss, blood just gushing down the drain, the toilet, super pad filled in five minutes and clots almost as wide as the pad.
This went on for the best part of the day and I went to emergency. They told me I had probably passed the baby and discharged me but the next day the severe cramps started again and the entire baby, sac and placenta came out in my underwear.
somebody at the hospital later told me that the bleeding is the uterus trying to dislodge the pregnancy from the wall of the uterus. It slows down as soon as the pregnancy comes out.
The most important thing is that in your situation, because you have an infection, you are being treated with strong antibiotics. Somebody needs to be monitoring you if your blood loss keeps being this high.
I started to feel physically better after the pregnancy had passed. I needed an iron infusion and was very run down, but I got through. Best wishes to you for the very difficult experience that this is.