1 living Child then 2 MMC. Positive stories?

[Sonny124]

Hi, I’m just looking for a bit of positivity (and possible suggestions). I’ve just had my second missed miscarriage in a row.
i already have a child aged 3 with same partner who’s pregnancy was a breeze.
I get pregnant very easily and I just can’t wrap my head around the fact I’ve had TWO missed miscarriages.

I’ve spoken at length with a consultant who was very understanding and has referred me for some extra bloods but he has said that, basically, he still believes it’s just ‘bad luck’. I’d prefer a reason than to accept this is bad luck.

We have decided to wait & have these tests so that I, hopefully, don’t have to go through this again.

in the meantime I am just wondering has anyone been in a similar position & got answers? Or even went on to have their rainbow baby?

the most bizarre thing to me is that my body just hangs on to these baby’s. I’ve never bled with either, not even had a bit of spotting. So Ive had to have a d&C both times. I’ve been told progesterone wouldn’t help me because of my lack of bleeding.

I'm so sorry to read this, I don't have any advice or answers sadly. I have one child and had a MMC 3 weeks ago and I am terrified it happens again whenever I get pregnant. I completely understand the need for answers, I still feel I can't fully move on as I don't know why my body didn't recognise etc and noone can give me any answers as to why it happened.

I really hope you get answers and someone can share a positive story. It's just a horrendous thing to have to go through nevermind going through it twice.

@Sonny124 hello! We seem to be in the same situation, I have a 2 year old whose pregnancy was a breeze, not an issue in sight.

Now we've had a MMC at 12 weeks (baby was 10) and one straight after and although I was 10 weeks baby never even measured 6....I'm assuming first was a placenta issue and the second just a bad chromosomal issue. Not that it makes it easier.

I am currently going with it's bad luck and the odds are definitely more in my favour, particularly given we have a living child. I've just finished my first period since MVA but for practical reasons having to delay TTC for a couple of months which frankly seems like torture.

How's your recovery going? X

@Sonny124 so sorry for your losses my experience echos with what your consultant has said though, sometimes it's just bad luck. I had 2 healthy children with no issues in pregnancy and not so much as a chemical when conceiving them.

My third was a miscarriage at 16 weeks with no reason found, my 4th was a miscarriage at 15+5 with no reason found and my 5th was an ectopic.

Currently pregnant with number 6 and got to 33 weeks with no issues 🤷‍♀️

I had the full testing, and the babies had full post mortems. Husband and I had genetic testing to see if that could be a cause and no reason was found. The loss at 16 weeks I did bleed a bit for but he'd passed between 13-14 weeks so I held on to him and the next one I didn't bleed for it was found at an extra "reassurance" scan, she had passed sometime after 14 weeks. I needed medical management for both.

Although nothing was found as a cause, I started on progesterone, aspirin 150mg and clexane after the first scan at 6 weeks where they found a heartbeat - all help support a healthy placenta. My consultant was clear that these medications might not help this time but they certainly won't harm so to just try it.

I completely understand what you mean when you say you can't wrap your head around the miscarriages- I remember thinking that too, just lost in a nightmare and don't know how to get out. Not sure I even grieved the second and third losses, I was just on autopilot. Didn't buy a single thing for this pregnancy until 27 weeks and didn't tell a soul until 17 weeks and I couldn't hide it any longer. Pregnancy after loss is very painful, and not really exciting at all. But worth it ❤️

I’m so sorry you are going through this, I could have written exactly your post last year. I had an easy pregnancy with my first child (now 3) and then two MMC while trying for number 2. I had some blood tests which showed nothing much. I took low dose aspirin on advice of a consultant and was seen for a v early scan when I conceived again (which like you didn’t seem to be a problem), and then was prescribed progesterone (which they didn’t seem to think would help much but said it wouldn’t hurt either). I went on to have a healthy pregnancy and that baby is now 3 months.

So I never did find out what had caused the MMCs and I don’t know if the asprin/progesterone made any difference, but I did get my rainbow baby in the end! Wishing you all the best of luck, hang in there.

Hey all, Thankyou so much for taking the time to reply to me. I’m so sorry for the losses you have experienced but i must admit it is reassuring to know that i am not alone.

i am definitely going to push for the progesterone/asprin when the time comes that i do get pregnant again. They have already said that I can contact EPU soon as I concieve again for early reassurance.

I’ve also just had a phone call from a bereavement nurse for counselling. Which was never offered to me first time round. My recovery this time has also felt a lot better.

me & my OH have decided we are going to take some time out. This will allow us to get my blood tests, and then we can decide whether we want to go ahead with the referral to the miscarriage clinic. Has anyone been referred before? The only thing we are worried about is the waiting list as we desperately want a second child.

I'm so glad to hear that there has been success stories though! Our bodies can be strange things.

Hi, a little late to the post but I had a very easy first pregnancy and then went onto have two mc. It's heartbreaking and the care you has received so far seems really good.

I went onto to have a healthy wonderful little boy after my losses.

Wish you very well for the future

I had two babies followed years later by two back to back miscarriages (6 and 13 weeks) and then fell pregnant with my now 3 year old. I wish you luck on your journey

@lifehappens12 @LittleBrownBaby
im so sorry you both had to experience 2 losses but also so glad that you went on to have healthy babies. If you don’t mind me asking, did you do anything differently? Or did it just happen naturally ?

I can’t fault the care I have recieved this time round. It’s been excellent so far. However, with my first MMC it was absolutely horrendous 😥