Multiple missed miscarriage

[Eggyleggy]

I was wondering if this has happened to anyone else and if anyone knows why it happens.

I have had 2 missed miscarriages as well as a heartbreaking TFMR. I am fortunate to also have an incredible little toddler.

I'm pregnant again but with a sudden loss of symptoms I think it's looking likely I'm going down the missed miscarriage route again.

Things I have read say it is unusual to have more than one missed miscarriage but it seems to be all my body does. I've never had spontaneous bleeding. Just bad news at scans.

It means I have a complete lack of trust in my body. A scan might give reassurance for an hour but then all I can think of is missed miscarriage. It feels like my body is tricking me and I find it so hard.

I find it really hard to talk about with my husband because it feels unfair to let my feelings or suspicions have such a big impact on his emotions. It just makes me feel so alone - I can't trust my own body, I can't talk to my husband.

So sorry you are going through this. I had one MM and I strongly remember the feeling of not trusting my own body. It was awful. I had a lot going on in my life at that time and didn't tell many people so also remember struggling. I did speak to DP though, largely about my disbelief and mistrust in my body. I went on to have 2 healthy pregnancies afterwards, but could never relax and enjoy them.

Thank you for replying.
I spoke to my husband about how I'm feeling. I sort of wish I hadn't because it has dragged him in to this rollercoaster of emotions based purely on my feelings. But I couldn't pretend that I felt all was well for another week until our scan.
Just desperate for the nausea to come back.

I had two in a row then an IVF chemical. I had plenty of tests but nothing came back as being wrong. The consultants put it down to bad luck. The month after the chemical I got pregnant naturally again. I started on progesterone from 3dpo and then had aspirin added around 11 weeks. I'm now 29 weeks and all is going ok this time!

I really hope it was just bad luck for you too and that this one is your sticky one!

I am so sorry you are going through such mental turmoil. Just because you had a MM before does not mean it will happen again, in fact it's unlikely to. You'll be hypersensitive to your body so more than likely you're overthinking things. Don't forget also, all pregnancies symptom wise can be very different.

Progesterone can be prescribed once a pregnancy is confirmed in the womb on a scan and id you've had a miscarriage/ bleeding previously.

I hope you're wrong and all is well! I had a missed miscarriage in January but only knew as I had spotting and it's heartbreaking. Wishing you all the best 🤍