TW - Miscarriage at 7 weeks

[Bb542]

Hi everyone,

So I'm currently going through a miscarriage. Had a scan on Monday which showed pregnancy had stopped progressing. Sac was there but empty. I was referred to EPU a few days later. The sac is still there but they want to see me again in a week to see if it has passed naturally. They said if it's still there next week, I might need medication.

Has anyone ever had to take medication or have a d&c for a miscarriage at 7 weeks? Really hoping it doesn't come to this.

Thank you ☺️

Don't worry girl, I'm the exact same. My mind is all over the place.

I'm sorry you can't take any time off work but hopefully it's a distraction for you. I've been off work a week now and have really needed. I was signed off by the hospital for two weeks but I'm hoping to go back a bit sooner.

I just had steak too. I really enjoyed it. Medium rare 🤣 also going to a fancy steak place at the weekend hopefully if I'm up for it 🤣 don't think I'm up for alcohol just yet but I absolutely am behind anyone who has gone through this wants a bottle of wine.

I think I'm ready to move on now but also get so sad about what could've been 😔

@Bb542 oh yes a nice juicy steak, I think that will go some way. I think some mussels too. Why not 🤣.
How are you doing today?
I think if I was off work I'd just sit on the sofa and do nothing which I don't know if it would help or not. A little bit of time might be nice but I think I'll save that for when it happens.
I have my hospital appt on weds I'm not sure if I even said that.
I had a few hours where I didn't cry but just burst into tears cleaning my teeth as I saw the pot I used to collect in for my daily POAS. Thankfully darling DH has quickly removed all pregnancy or baby related books/scan pics on fridge/random tests from most areas of the house but obviously didn't see what I peed into. I feel guilty for not being sad for a few minutes then feel sad when I remember it's just that I forgot.

Yeah just go with what feels right for you. Did you say you haven't had bleeding yet? You might want to take a few days off when the bleeding starts as it could get quite heavy and crampy. Im still bleeding 9-10 days later. I'm a teacher so I just couldn't face work last week both physically and emotionally.

Don't worry if you don't feel sad all the time. It's normal. I felt really down and sad all weekend. Feel a little bit better today except for the last few hours where I feel so down and sad. I had kept the multiple pregnancy tests I took, positive ovulation tests etc. I've now thrown everything out except for the first digital test I did and showed my DP. I can't bring myself to throw that away as it was my first ever positive digital test 😔 some days are harder than others, but we'll get through it.

I'm really eager to try again pretty soon after, but then again I'm so really nervous and wondering should we wait a while 😔

@californiacooper oh sweet yes you are strong enough. It's strange how these things make you realise that. I didn't take any time off work either. And you're right in that it helped take my mind off it a little. I have wobbles here and there, I'm not sure if that will ever go away but don't worry cause that's normal. I hope all goes well for you today.
@Bb542 aww sweet I know exactly how you feel. It's hard when your sentimentally attached to certain things but take your own advice and do what's right for you. In terms of trying again I know the back and forth pull you are talking about. I threw myself back in - well if you can call it that. We're not actively TTC but also not actively not trying to not TTC if that makes sense. So far I have caught after my first and second MCs but both have ended in another MC so part of me thinks maybe I should give it a rest but then my heart aches for another baby. It's all so emotionally draining. Nobody except DH and you lovely ladies on here know about my MCs (and our eldest knows about my first one) so that makes it more difficult as there's nobody to really bounce off. Again I will say trust your gut. Do what you feel is best. If you do go straight back in then I wish you all the luck in the world @Bb542 and you @californiacooper and to all of you on here. We can navigate this new path together ladies. Just know that I am genuinely rooting for each and every one if you and if you do go on to have a successful pregnancy I will be so happy for each and every one of you. 💐💐

@nearly8 @Bb542 how are you guys doing? I posted on one of the other mc threads my update after having my scan :(
Re trying again... I'm in the mindset that this all needs to be over and done with asap so that we can carry on. I'm hoping I'm strong enough

@californiacooper I'm doing ok. Have my appointment tomorrow to see if it's passed naturally. I'm still bleeding but not as much. Haven't really noticed anything passing though.

How did you get on? I hope you're okay. It's not easy. My mood has been so low today 😢 just want to feel happy again.

@Bb542 awww I'm sorry you've been feeling low sweet. It can be hard to be happy sometimes but try and find something to smile about today. I'll be thinking of you. Let us know how you get on. 💐💐
@californiacooper of course you're strong enough sweet. No matter what life throws at us we always find a way to muddle through. Good to hear you're still TTC sending you lots of love and hugs. Got everything crossed for you 💐💐

@Bb542 and @californiacooper
I’ve been thinking of you and everyone else on this thread this week! It’s so crappy that everyone is going through this but very helpful to not feel alone in it.
I went back to work this week which was great in terms of distraction but a bit hard with people being so lovely and kind. Also got a few comments about not doing so much physical work in early pregnancy when I get pregnant again which I found irritating!
I’m only spotting very lightly at the moment which is great but I’m still taking nappy sized pads with me everywhere after last week’s surprise bleeds. Emotionally I’ve been up and down but trying to remind myself to just feel it all and that I’ll start to feel like myself again. I’m tempted to take a test and see if it’s negative but I know it’s too early and will probably just end up being an upsetting waste. Really keen to start TTC again but also nervous about starting before a period and then worrying about dates. I hate that the MC has added all this extra doubt and stress to the process.

@cheeseycrumpets I could have written most of that post myself. So sorry for your loss sweet 💐 but glad you're over the worst. I'm like you in that I keep the breeze block pads in until bleeding stops. I too feel the frustration of wanting to go again straight away but worrying about dates. However, I have caught after 2 of my losses and dates were still all over the place so my advice is just go for it and if 5 weeks pass and you haven't had any AF bleeding do a POAS. Ive had varying timeframes in terms of periods returning so for me it's still frustrating waiting around for cycles when I'm clueless as to when it will or won't occur. I won't lie to you any BFPs bring their own stresses and anxieties but like you said we can all travel this road together. Please keep me updated on your journey 💐💐