Recent miscarriage

[Newmum288]

I guess I am just looking for any wise words.
I recently suffered a miscarriage at 6 weeks. I attended hospital for a scan where they found no pregnancy left at all.
I have already had 1 baby and I know that this was early days, but for both of these reasons I feel like somehow the miscarriage was not really a ‘proper’ miscarriage, matters less somehow, isn’t something to be so upset about. But I am upset. Miserable.
The consultant at the hospital, when I started to cry, asked me why I was crying ?!?! Nobody said sorry for my loss. The ultrasound lady so quickly said “well there’s nothing in your womb so let’s check elsewhere”. I mean… ?!?!?! It felt so insensitive.
I don’t know what to do with any of these feelings. I wasn’t sent home with any literature or support. I feel like I’ve just got to pretend it didn’t happen and I’m fine - but it did and I’m not. 😢

I went through a miscarriage 3 weeks ago I was 10 weeks (baby stopped developing at 6 weeks though!) I know what you mean about the staff being a bit inconsiderate when I first started bleeding the A & E doctor literally said well it’s probably a miscarriage you’ll have a scan in a few days go home.
I can only go from my experience but I’ve found speaking to people around me really helpful so many people when I’ve said oh I had a miscarriage have come back with that happened to me before I had my little one and I’ve found that really reassuring!
you’ve lost a baby it isn’t nothing and don’t let anyone make you feel like it is!
I’m 3 weeks after my loss and I’m still upset and still miserable but it isn’t all consuming anymore!
I also have 2 other children (7&3)!

@Newmum288 I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the experience you had at the hospital - how the staff treat you makes such a difference and it's sad to hear that they were so unsympathetic.

I really recommend the Miscarriage Association as a source of information - when I miscarried my first pregnancy last year the hospital gave me a number of their leaflets, all of which can be downloaded from their website, and they also have a telephone helpline. They also have the lovely Stars of Remembrance page, where you can dedicate a star to your lost baby.

https://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/

I had a miscarriage at the weekend, I was just under 5 weeks so when eventually managed to get through and speak to the EPU I found the midwife really cold and matter of fact. I couldn’t believe there was no niceness or compassion at all. I have been upset and miserable all week, the smallest things setting me off. I told my husband not to tell anyone as I felt silly being so upset as we had only know a few days before the bleeding start but Iv now spoken to a few friends and they have totally validated my feelings. So 100% speak to people also this forum has been so helpful for me. Sorry you are going through this too x