Pregnancy shock, slow misscarriage and now separated

[ifididntknowbetter]

Hi everyone, the last 3 weeks of my life have been a rollercoaster.

I am in my 40's and found out I was pregnant. What a shock.

My partner has a child from a previous relationship. I don't have any children and thought it wasn't possible.

It took about a week but he said he wasn't coping and needed some space so i left.
Exactly a week later he split up with me and said I was fully on my own. Made up some excuse.

I hadn't been feeling well and then had excruciating pain with 2 visits to the EPU. I should have been 7 weeks but the scan showed 5. I have had brown spotting since Saturday with the pain coming in waves. My next scan is in 2 weeks but i dont feel pregnant anymore.

I keep thinking it's going to happen when I get intense pain but nothing does.

I'm just posting because I feel like shit physically and mentally. Waiting for 2 weeks for confirmation of what I already know and then dealing with a break up of someone I loved who has let me down so badly seems almost too much to bear.

@ifididntknowbetter omg sweet my heart goes out to you. Firstly I know it's broken your heart but if he was so ready to split with you he's not the right one. I now that means nothing and you feel so shit but trust me when the dust settles you'll be glad he's gone. The right one is still there for you.

Secondly I'm sorry for your loss. MC can take a while and it's the worst as you just want it over. If you do start heavy bleeding with clots and cramps that's when you will know. It seems stupid to have to go back and confirm something you already know - I didn't bother with my last two MCs. I felt like there was no point. However, if there are any issues such as retained products then it's best to be checked out to confirm/rule this out.

MC triggers such horrible emotions and the rollercoaster ride can really take its toll. Take time to care for yourself, do what you want when you feel like doing it even if that means just sitting at home doing naff all.

Sending you hugs and a hand hold 💐💐

I'm so sorry you're going through this, I hope you realise how strong you are! I suffered a miscarriage last week (first pregnancy at 39 years old, just started trying five months ago). I hope you're holding up, there are better things ahead for you, whatever they may be, there'll be someone who stands by you no matter what, and there's so many supportive women on here to call on! Take care of yourself 🙏