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Hel please - is this a miscarriage?

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quarkee · 22/03/2008 21:55

I hope you can help me - I started bleeding yesterday and paniced and went to A&E - they scheduled me for a scan today. I have had increasingly heavy bleeding (red w some clots) today but the scan this morning showed a heartbeat! What do I do??? The bleeding is still going on but the doctor said that it could for another day or so - somethnig about the foetus 'burrowing' into the lining?? Am so worried that I may be losing this one. This is my 2nd pregnacny, the first was problem free and i have a lovely DS as a result. Since then I have been diagnosed with PArkinsons however. Can anyone give me any advice as to what I should do? I dont want to rush to A&E again as i got the feeling i may have overreactted butthrn what the heck else are you supposed to do - it was such a shock....I'm sorry this may sound minor compared to those of you who have suuffered multiple mc but i'm so scared...

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quarkee · 25/03/2008 09:41

I have scan booked for tomorrow morning - the doctor wanted me to wait until Thursday in case I am mcing now (still bleeding) but i'm afraid i started crying (I had in the meantime almost convinced myself that it was going to be OK, I found a site that said 90% of pgs with early bleeding go on to be OK if a heartbeat is found at 6 or 7 weeks) because it brought it home to me that i might still be losing tiddler. She rang the hospital back and got me moved up. So back at square one re feelings but at least i have a scan booked. Have effectively cancelled work today so client will be unhappy and i am jeopardising my promotion but cant imagine doing the 100miles into london today, run workshop and schlep back here. thank goodness for mn

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berolina · 25/03/2008 09:51

Thinking of you. Well done for cancelling work - I have taught students while actually miscarrying and it was hell - I now wonder why I did that to myself.

PABLOP · 25/03/2008 09:54

quarkee get your feet up

MaryAnnSingleton · 25/03/2008 10:08

yes, try to relax and be calm today...thinking of you

lackaDAISYcal · 25/03/2008 10:45

well done for cancelling work, and shame on them if they pass you over for promotion on the basis of one sick day.

feet up, eat chocolate, and good luck for tomorrow.

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quarkee · 25/03/2008 13:45

thanks for good wishes - funny you should say re chocolate - i went out and bought some chocs and now feel v sick - suspect its sugar overload rather than ms though . It's not the one day off thing its just that this sesion today was v important and ive also had to cry off a trip to brussells which was pretty pivotal - am probably overreacting, hard not to at the moment. Anyway I would never forgive myself if i mc'd while at work becasue rightly or wrongly i would think i'd brouht it upon myself - berolina i salute you , its wierd what you do re work when under stress - when my mother died i calmly wrote out a hand over paper and dictated it to my secretary before i set off to my father's house - looking back i have no clue why i bothered but it was important to me at the time - trying to keep some semblence of normality i suppose. Will do some work from home tomorrow depending on the news.

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catzy · 25/03/2008 21:26

Good luck tomorrow quarkee. Will be thinking of you. x

Jackstini · 25/03/2008 22:58

Glad you have got the scan Q - will be thinking of you tomorrow.
If you are up to it, explain to work.
I didn't think I would be able to but I did and it really helped.

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quarkee · 26/03/2008 12:26

Well I had my scan and sadly there was no hb and I have officially mcd - I passed a big clot today too so I think that's the last i will see of tiddler the EPAU were lovely to me though and at least i dont have to go for a d and c or anything. I am now back at home trying to let it sink in - I've had few days to try to get my head round it but now its final am feeling a bit shell shocked. Have been advised to drop work for the rest of the week - i dont work friday anyway so i dont feel too bad about that. I haven't told them what happened yet as i was hpoing it would be ok but i suppose there's no harm/point in not saying anything now. Keep on thinknig hwo horrible this must be if it is your first pg - at least I have DS to make it all OK. Big hugs to everyone who has been in the same boat.

We're going to try again but will wait a few weeks i think. I was in such a rush to get pg due to my age (38) and the PD diagnosis - i just wanted to get as much out of life as possible. i guess this is my body telling me to chill out a bit. ho hum. thanks for all your support guys - this would have been so much harder without MN. Qxx

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MaryAnnSingleton · 26/03/2008 12:36

oh quarkee {sad} I'm so sorry - I'm sending a big cyber hug to you now...please take some time to look after yourself and recover..if it's any small consolation, or at least a thing to hang on to, I had ds at 38, so you aren't dreadfully old...xxx

MaryAnnSingleton · 26/03/2008 12:36

that was meant to be

PrePG · 26/03/2008 12:37

I'm so sorry to hear your news, quarkee. Miscarriage is a horrible horrible thing. Hopefully you can take comfort in your DS and he can help take your mind off of things a bit.

Take care of yourself.

nervousal · 26/03/2008 13:01

so sorry to hear your sad news quarkee. I've had two mcs at about 6 weeks - so can well imagine what you are going through. Look after yourself - and have as much of that chocolate as you want.

catzy · 26/03/2008 14:44

I'm so sorry quarkee. I've been thinking of you and will continue to do so. take care of yourself x

PABLOP · 26/03/2008 14:56

So sorry quarkee, I have had 2 mc so have some idea of what you must be going through. I mc last Dec (2006) at the age of 39 so I thought that was it no more babies for me, 2 months later I conceived again and gave birth to my ds in Dec 2007. Take care of yourself.

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quarkee · 26/03/2008 16:29

thanks guys I'll survive I'm sure

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mama4 · 27/03/2008 20:37

I just read your thread and I am ever so sorry dear for your loss and good luck for the future.

I had bleeding with clots and stringy stuff when I was 11 weeks went to AnE and was told due to no pains it cannot be a misscarriage but my blood results showed very low levels of hormone....it was agony having to wait for a scan......so i do understand what your going through and you have done the right thing by talking about it because it does help....as I have found out after a year.

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quarkee · 28/03/2008 18:33

You're right mama, talkig is the best way to cope. I am so glad MN was here over the weekend, it made it a little easier definately. Thansk for the good luck wishes...I hope you are doing OK?

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orangehead · 28/03/2008 18:40

So sorry quarkee, hope you ok and thinking of you and dp

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