In for D&C in an hour, I am devastated & petrified. Any words of encouragement please?

[aimeeeleanor]

I am in for a D&C in less than an hour to remove my twins. I am absolutely beside myself. Scared, devastated, it just feels so unnatural. God how my heart breaks for every single woman who has had to endure this pain. It is truly shattering

Any words of encouragement or advice please? I can’t stop shaking

I'm so sorry, sending you hugs and a hand hold.

Just so sorry you're going through this. I also had a D&C to remove my twins back in 2021 and I still remember the heartache so clearly. If terms of the physical procedure it was very quick and I don't remember being in much pain afterwards. Sending lots of hugs 🫂

i don’t know what to say.
I am so sorry for this huge loss.

I was devastated when it happened to me / I didn’t have twins. I remember a nurse holding my hand. I couldn’t stop crying and in a very British way I found myself apologising for crying and shaking. I remember her telling me that it was devastating and that she was so sorry I was going through it.
something about that validation and empthay really helped me. I actually fell to sleep under general feeling more peaceful.
not peaceful perhaps but more a surrendering and acceptance that I was in deep grief (and had a right to be) and that it would take time.

Physically - I found the procedure much quicker to recover from then I feared. It was quick and painless.

i hope someone is with you who can provide a bit of comfort.

im sorry if I haven’t said anything helpful. But please know I will be thinking of you all nmorninng and be closing my eyes this evening and sending all my positive thoughts your way.

I’m so very sorry for you op - im here for a handhold.

I had surgical management in September after a miscarriage at 7 weeks and I remember how scary and lonely it feels. If it helps I did feel some resolution afterwards - I had the option of managing it naturally home but decided i wanted the surgery so i could just go to sleep.

One thing no one prepared me for was the big hormone crash 2 or 3 days afterwards - I felt quite ‘ok’ the day after but the couple of days after that were mostly spent crying.

Sending you love and a big hug ♥️

This too, shall pass.

I am so, so sorry that you are going through this devastating time.

I had to have two, 6 months apart.

Take whatever pain relief they suggest.

I agree with @Monkeyfloor in that I was exhausted for the first 24 hours, and then bounced back physically.

I was booked in, and once in my cubicle, spoke to the nurse, who took all my health details. Then, the anaesthetist had a talk, and asked about any loose teeth.

I was then given pain relief (usually opiate based, but I had naproxen, as I can't take opiates) and a tablet (by mouth) to start relaxing the cervix. This needed up to an hour to work.

I then had to get changed into a hospital gown, and as I was bleeding heavily, wedge a pad between my legs.

Was then wheeled round to the theatre, where I had a cannula put in.

Woke up in recovery, then wheeled back to the ward. This was a little day ward just for women having a D&C, same entrance as to the maternity wing, but then left, rather than right. So, at least, I wasn't surrounded by pregnant women.

One, recovery was swift, and I left (with DH) after about an hour (needed to eat, drink and have a wee).

The other, my blood pressure dropped worryingly during the op, so I came round with a drip attached. That took about 2 hours to be ready to leave the hospital.

I hope this helps.

Once again, I am so sorry for your loss.

Bless you, so sorry you have experienced this. It is awful. Those of us who have had this experience, twins and singles, understand and are very much holding your hand and sending you hugs. Hope things went ok today