Completely devastated.

[Queijo]

Hi all. I’m feeling so so low atm after a rather horrific miscarriage this week. I started spotting Wednesday, had nausea and cramping until Thursday where I started losing clots at an alarming rate and ended up in hospital due to cervical shock and blood loss. Came home yesterday and have been resting as much as I can as a single mum to a 7 year old.

Felt numb for a day or two but today I am just so sad I don’t know what to do with my grief.

This was a very unplanned pregnancy - I had the coil and take epilepsy meds so I keep wondering wether that’s the reason I lost my baby. I wish I’d known earlier so I could stop the meds and save their life? I feel so guilty and sad.

I haven’t told anyone in real life yet, and now I don’t even know how to. I just want to keep being normal for Dd but I feel very overwhelmed currently. It just fucking sucks so much.

I’m so sorry for your loss.

Please don’t blame yourself. You were doing what was best for your health, to the best of your knowledge at the time, and the meds may have had nothing to do with the loss anyway.

Take care of yourself. I struggled after a very dramatic and scary loss and found that group sessions with the miscarriage association helped. They’re online, run by lovely women, and are full of women who just get it.

Wishing you all the best 💐

I’m so sorry you’re going through this too. I lost my first pregnancy around 3 weeks ago, so completely understand. Please trust me when I say it does start to get easier. Grief is completely normal and necessary for your heart and body to heal. I know it sucks more than you can explain to anyone, and while it will never go away, we can learn how to live with the loss.

Dont ever blame yourself or feel guilty, it more than likely wasn’t meant to be. I know how hard that is to accept though. Sending lots of love.

There are some charities you can speak to who really helped me if you wish to talk it through 1:1 with someone. The support midwives at Tommys were brilliant for me.

Hi there. I'm so sorry this happened to you. It happened to me too recently. It's such a horrible thing. I ended up in A&E in a lot of pain. Can I ask how long it took you to recover OP? It's been two weeks for me and I'm having some cervical pain and a little bit of brown discharge so I am a bit worried.

Did you have a follow up scan to check if everything came out naturally? Hope you're feeling better now. @Queijo