No yolk sac or fetal pole at 6+3

[UrsulaSings123]

As the title says, went for a scan today at 6+3 at EPAU and they couldn't find yolk sac or fetal pole. Gestational sac looked more like 4 weeks apparently. I was tracking ovulation so pretty sure I ovulated on 7th ish of Jan and dates aren't wrong. They said its a pregnancy of unknown viability and want me to go back next Tues. I feel totally devastated and found it impossible to function today. I feel like my whole world is caving in and I don't know how I'm going to get through the next week like this.

I am sorry ( isn't sorry such a useless word sometimes ) I have been there too.

xx and unmumsnetty hugs

It just feels impossible waiting a week to find out, when it's probably not good news. If it was only 4 weeks I would have ovulated after getting a positive pregnancy test, which is impossible. I hate that I'm still hoping.

I'm really struggling with the waiting. I feel like I'm waiting to go to the gallows. I keep wondering whether coming off the pill has affected it as this was the first month after coming off the pill. Maybe I should have waited a month.

So sorry to hear what you're going through. Having been in your situation twice, I completely understand how you feel. It's the not knowing that's so hard, and frustrating! Please don't give up hope, it was third time lucky for us and we now have our beautiful baby girl x

Don’t worry I was 6+3 days they told me only last week that my gestational bag was to big and maybe Collapsing and there is only yolk sac and no baby !!!!She said prepare yourself for miscarriage next appointment was fallowing week.To my shock there was a baby and heartbeat a bit slow then should be but it was there.Next scan in two weeks😊I was having that feeling that it was to early scan was showing 7+3 days.They scared me so much !!!!Think positive and all will be great !!!!!

I had a second scan and they dated me 5+4 and there was a yolk sac inside, but they still said it was unknown viability as there was still no fetal pole, and I should have been 7+3 (7+1 at a push if you go by ovulation). They said to come back this week to see what happens.

I have felt manageable all week and then today I woke up and I feel horrendous again. I feel like what little symptoms I did have this week have totally disappeared and I think that my hormones have dropped and its causing me to feel low. I am so worried about the scan tomorrow 😪

Is everything still going well with you? That's amazing you must have been so shocked.

I was so shocked I am going for the next scan on Thursday so fingers crossed so far I am feeling great a bit nauseous in the morning.I will let you know if the baby got bigger😊

Yes please do! Must be reassuring you're having more symptoms.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, I hope you get good news 🙏

Thank you. It's not really good news. Had another scan and they think they saw 3mm fetal pole but no heartbeat and 3 weeks behind dates with a larger than usual gestational sac. Even though they keep saying it looks like a miscarriage they can't intervene until it gets to 7mm with no heartbeat, so I have another scan next week. It's absolutely awful being in limbo waiting for a miscarraige.

Thank you for your message, its a very lonely place to be.

I'm so sorry to hear that, I can only imagine, I suffered my first (and hopefully only) miscarriage last week, it's such a horrible loss. You're doing everything you can, there's nothing more you can do, I was told that sometimes this just happens, and it does. I hope next week comes quick for you and you get the answers you need, take care of yourself 🙏

Well don’t give up my bag was much larger and nothing was in it at 6 weeks only gestational bag but no sac or fetus !At 7 weeks there was a sac but no baby at 7+3 there was a baby but very slow heartbeat so maybe yours is just a little behind.On my scan they told me probably miscarriage as the gestational bag was bigger and irregular !Bag was perfect next scan so don’t give up yet until they know 100 %I also have scan tomorrow and I will see 100 % what is going on !!Thinking of you ai know how awful it is to wait in limbo…..💋💋💋💋

I had a scan today and unfortunately baby heart stopped 😭😭😭😭I am feeling very sad 🥺Crying none stop …..

@Gorgina

I am sorry ( isn't sorry such a useless word )

What happens now ? have you been sent home to miscarry naturally

xx and unmumsnetty hugs

Oh it's awful isn't it. Such horrible grief. Sending you so much love.

Thank you

I have time till Friday if nothing happens till then I will be booking D and C in the mean time I had a hot bath and hoping to get this over and done with 🥺

@Gorgina

Tomorrow Friday
or next Friday ?

Many many many years ago I didn't realise I was being sent home to miscarry ( I didn't ) and the d&c was booked there and then for 1 week later.

Next Friday

Next Friday is 7 long days, I do feel for you - in one of the OP's replies she says it's like waiting to go to the gallows, and you said hoping to get this over and done with - I do agree.

It's not ' just ' the loss of a baby / potential baby, it's the wondering if it would be a boy or a girl, probably thinking of names already, the telling of any grandparents etc, the excitement, the planning, the hopes and dreams - all taken away.

for now.

We can all only hope you all become pregnant soon without too much difficulty and hope for happy healthy pregnancies.

I hope that too very much, I'm dreading that I'll struggle to get pregnant as quick this time or that I'll loose it again, trying my best to keep a positive mind and body 🙏 I hope that for everyone wanting this as much as I do too!

I find myself wanting to get this miscarriage over as quickly as possible so I can carry on TTC, which feels heartbreaking like I'm just wishing the tiny spark of life away. I have another scan on Tuesday to check if there's been any growth or not. If there's no growth all week, or it measures 7mm with no heartbeat then I will be able to start the next process. I have already decided I will opt for an MVA under local anaesthetic. I've read you bleed less for that. A previous loss I had I bled for weeks and weeks and there's no way I'm doing that again.

@RememberZen

Oh ! I am so sorry I had not realised you were in the same situation as the other ladies. My apologies.

I am much much older than all of you,

In my day we didn't think or know ? about ttc dates / ovulation dates / early pregnancy tests / early scans.
Well not as far as I remember. And it wasn't something any of my friends experienced / discussed.

And I didn't have a forum like this to share / learn. As a result I struggle with some of the terminology used and guess what is meant usually.

From memory we were told to try again in about 3 months - why I don't know.

Anyway, yes I got pregnant again after about 3 months and had another d&c about 2 months later.

Thankfully my 3rd pregnancy was successful and like @9422x I had a dd.

My 4th pregnancy a couple of years later also resulted in a d&c.

I never became pregnant after that. Never asked why - guess it wasn't to be / my age ( tho I see from MN mothers far older than I was then )

We then went down the adoption route, twice.

May you all have healthy happy babies this time next year.

UrsulaSings123 I hope for nothing but good news for you, you are in my thoughts 🙏 OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon I'm sorry for your losses, we are not taught about any of these things early on, in the films it's always portrayed so easy, but for some of us having a baby seems it can be not so straightforward. I'm 39 now and I'm stressing about loosing valuable time, waiting to try again, if I'll get pregnant as easy as the first and if my body has what it takes to make a healthy child, I'm quite terrified some days, it's hard not to panic. But I can't turn back the clock, if I could I would realise I want this earlier in life, I never knew how much I wanted this until having a life grow inside me. I'm so glad you could adopt, that is wonderful! It is something I'd be very up for, but my partner doesn't want that unfortunately, it's hard. Thank you for your kind words.