Potential Twin Early Miscarriage - please talk to me x

[Stephanieava]

Please please anybody I just need to talk this out & either get the slightest ray of hope or be brought back down to reality

Today we were told we lost potential twins at a private scan (UK)

Backstory…

• LMP 16th December

• Had sex unprotected once 28th December (didnt do it again that month)

• Positive pregnancy test 8th Jan

• Early pregnancy scan with NHS 23rd Jan due to pain. Measured 5w3d, saw sac, yolk sac but no fetal pole. Was told it was normal for this stage of pregnancy

• Private scan (that was already booked) on 28th Jan. Found a second baby! Again, sac, yolk sac but no fetal pole. First baby had developed but they wouldn’t say for definite in the scan that they were 100% they could see a heartbeat, even though me & my husband could see it. Measured just under 6weeks. They did say there was obvious progression from the nhs scan. Then they sent me the report which said heartbeat recorded so was very confused

• Back for private rescan today 4th feb. 2nd baby nothing had developed & 1st baby couldn’t see an obvious heartbeat. Measured 6weeks. Haemorrhage also found 21x11mm next to first baby

Is there any ray of light in this? Should there have been more obvious progression in a week? I don’t know if I’m just in complete denial but i’m struggling to trust what the private scanner said as they wouldn’t commit to seeing a 1st heartbeat in person but then changed their mind when sending the report to us

I’m phoning EPU tomorrow. If it is an obvious miscarriage then I just want it over with, no watching & waiting. My heart can’t take it. But i don’t want to make a decision that i’ll regret forever

Sorry I know all this is word vomit but I’m really struggling. Any advice or similar experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much xx

I'm very sorry, but it doesn't sound hopeful.

Why did you have the two private scans? Didn't the NHS arrange another one?

It's very sad to deal with pregnancy loss. I really do sympathise.

OP - you sound very very anxious. Unless you have a long history of infertility and loss three u/sounds in a month and heading to a fourth tomorrow is very unusual. I am saying this with great kindness but you need to just take it a little calmer. At this point in your pregnancy there is nothing you can do or help anyway. My last pg I had a scan at around 6wks (on holiday, surprise!) dx blighted ovum (string of miscarriages before) and came home to nhs scan pre termination, which showed a good strong heartbeat two weeks later. Just give it a bit of time, take your vits, wait a few weeks for things to settle down. Hugs.

How are you today, OP?

@TheShellBeach thank you for checking in x

It’s been a bit of a crazy day. So we went to EPU this morning and they basically disagree with the private scan. The private scan told me yesterday that the second baby was just an enlarged yolk sac. However, today there was a 2.2mm embryo in there & a normal yolk sac!

The private scanners also told me at their first scan that the second baby could potentially be a polyp or just a pool of blood. It was really bizarre

Anyway, so the NHS have said that as far as they’re concerned there has been massive progression since THEY last scanned me 13 days ago as at their first scan there was only 1 sac with only a yolk sac in it. Now there are 2 with 2 fetus’s

Still no heartbeats seen but as i’m measuring less than 7 weeks they’ve said it’s not ideal but also not a red flag just yet

They’ve booked me back in next Monday to check for progression. So I feel like we have a ray of hope again

Also in regards to the scans we already had the private ones booked before we went to the epu (that was an on the day thing due to pain). We phoned the private clinic who said they wouldn’t refund us but wouldn’t be a problem to scan us too, so we trusted them and still went

Wow! Well, that's better, @Stephanieava

I'm glad you've got more positive news today.

I'll keep you and your babies in my prayers.

(And this is just more evidence that these private scan places are not reliable)