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Duffy23 · 25/01/2024 11:30

Hi all

I started bleeding yesterday so phoned the hospital.

I went for a scan and they couldn't find a heartbeat & the baby was measuring at 6 weeks and I should be 9. I was told to come back in on Tuesday.

The bleeding hasn't stopped. It's still light but the colours changing and it's a bit clotty.

I don't know what to expect & am scared. I know its a miscarriage but I'm so sad.My sister had a baby yesterday and saw me leave the hospital as she was coming in

Any advice welcome huge love to you all

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LER2023 · 25/01/2024 11:48

Really sorry to hear that your going through this.

Its an awful thing to go through.

I dont want to upset you at all.

However theres still a chance there may be a heartbeat! I was told that during my pregnancies.

Unfortunately for me, that didnt happen.

Your next steps which the doctors will tell you, you'll be given options for d&c, medical treatment or naturally.

My first miscarriage started naturally but had to be finished medically, my second had to be medically started.

I only went for medical, because i knew there wasnt a chance i was going through a d&c due to the unknown and i read too much into d&c and didnt want to take my chances on the risks.

The medical one, you'll be given 3 tablets if i remember right, it was fuzzy at the time due to what had been happening and my brain just didnt want to process it.

1 being an antibiotic, 2 being medication to dilate your cervix.

You dont feel this happening!! I do want to be clear about this, you do not feel the dilation!

I was sent home with 6 tablets which either had to be inserted for a quicker response or put on your gums (they'll taste vile as i remember being told and then was told really it should be done vaginally to speed up the process so its not as bad... (they lied))

You will bleed a hell of a lot, its heartbreaking.

My first one i started bleeding on the toilet, really bad and i had my MIL come and take a look at my drenched underwear, which makes me feel horrible as she went through the same thing prior to my partner being born. It seemed like the memory had just flashed back instantly of what she went through.

I put on a pad and it all just came through that and my underwear, my trousers, the towel and the bed sheets onto the mattress. (Like i said theres quite a bit of blood)

I remember being sat on the toilet with my second just sobbing while the clots come away.

I had inserted 4 in the morning and then i believe it was 2 - 3 hours later i insterted the last 2 and laid in bed until i could feel cramping (it felt like a bad period cramp each time i was contracting)

I couldnt stand up without feeling something come out.

Theres blood and clots. It can take up to 24 hours really for it to come away and then your bleeding with slow down a lot when its flushed and just seem like a heavy period and then i bled for 6 weeks.

I had a clot that came out the size of my palm and was told i should have gone to a&e straight after and shouldnt have left it as it could have been a hemorrhage.

please if you do pass clots that are fairly big, seek advice, i was lucky that it wasnt anything bad but my luck cant be the same as anyone elses.

I hope this doesnt upset you more than you already are, wishing you all the best in the options you take with the hospital.

Sending so much love to you at this time.

Lemonyfire · 25/01/2024 16:26

@Duffy23 I’m so sorry to read this. Every miscarriage is so different so it’s hard to give any advice on what to expect. I had a miscarriage 8 years ago in between my children and my first sign was bleeding. This pregnancy I should have been 8.5 weeks now, I had two early scans and there was growth in between but very slow and I’ve been spotting for 10 days, I had a scan at EPU today and they confirmed no progression since last scan and no heartbeat so I’m waiting for the bleeding to start. It’s the most awful feeling, I have to go back next week to see if I pass everything this week and if not to discuss management. Sending you loads of love and be gentle to yourself.

@LER2023 thank you for writing all this info- I know this was aimed at OP but actually very relevant to me right now and really helpful to know what my options may be and what might happen and what to expect. Whatever happens it’s going to be horrible so I’m trying to prepare as best I can. For me the worst bit right now is knowing it’s over but not being able to process it until I’ve fully miscarried it that makes sense

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