MMC at 12 week scan

[fsr111]

After 2.5 years of TTC and two rounds of IVF we finally got a BFP for our much wanted DC2. We had a scan at 6 weeks and all was well. Yesterday, at our 12 week NHS scan we had the devastating news that baby had stopped growing at 7 weeks and there was no heartbeat. There had been no bleeding, spotting, cramping, absolutely nothing to indicate something was amiss. As soon as the scan started and no baby popped up on the screen, I knew it was all over and I can't get that awful moment out of my mind. I feel absolutely heartbroken and like I don't know what to do next. I need to call EPU to make decisions about how to manage the miscarriage. I just feel totally numb. Not sure what I'm asking really, or what the purpose is of my post, just wondered if anyone else is going through similar and wanted to chat.

I’m so incredibly sorry, there are some brilliant charities (Tommy’s, Miscarriage association) who will offer you professional support.

This is really devastating, validate that and give yourself the grace and time you need.

I’m so sorry, no words from me can help you going through this, but just sending you a hug.

Couldn’t read and run- I had an MMC diagnosed at the 12 week scan and can still vividly remember that moment of realisation 6 years on. It was horrible and it is horrible and you absolutely need to allow yourself to grieve your baby. I know there is no comparison with grief but I didn’t have the same fertility struggles you have and so I can only imagine how much worse the pain feels in your situation. It is really shit- absolutely talk and look up the support these charities offer. Sending so many hugs

Hello.. mine wasn't missed. I unfortunately started bleeding heavily on Monday and confirmed miscarriage at scan yesterday. I was 11 weeks and my 12 week scan was supposed to be next Thursday. If you want to chat I'm happy to x sorry for your loss.

I'm also really sorry. I had the same at my 12 week scan in October, baby stopped at 9.5 weeks and I'd had a scan at 8 weeks with everything spot on. As you say there's nothing worse than looking at the screen and just knowing.

I felt so crap afterwards so please do look after yourself. I ended up miscarrying naturally the day after of all things. I fell pregnant the next month to have another missed miscarriage which I handled via surgery yesterday. If you decide to have surgery I found it all very smooth and I'm in no discomfort today.

We're all here to talk if you would find that helpful. It's unfortunate that so many women share the same experience xx

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’ve had 4 miscarriages and I highly recommend surgical management. It was painless and I recovered very quickly.

Agree with this, I had a D&C last week and it was fine. Very sad obviously but I've been down the medical management route and it was long and painful and elongated the emotional side of things massively. So sorry for your loss OP, I keep replaying that scan moment too, it's horrible. It will get better I promise. I hope you find the strength to keep trying x

Thank you everyone and I'm sorry to see that some of you have been through it too. It feels like the biggest heartbreak but I know that time will heal.

I've booked for the D&C on Friday. Glad to know it's not too bad. Feels like the best option for me as I don't think I could deal with it at home, emotionally.

I hope you get your baby soon @ThelastRolo20, I'm so sorry you have had to go through this twice.

I have nothing to say other than I'm so, so sorry. 💐

@fsr111 thank you ❤️ it makes me more grateful that my first pregnancy that resulted in my daughter went so smoothly.

I feel optimistic that when we try again in a few months it will work out. I'm glad you're booked in and I hope you're recovery goes well. Feel free to stay in touch x

I too would like to say I am very sorry for your loss fsr111. This is really very sad, and you waited a long time for this pregnancy. Like yourself and others I suffered a missed miscarriage of my first pregnancy late last year.. we also found out at the 12 week scan and the embryo had only survived for six weeks so I had carried that hope for six weeks with all pregnancy symptoms, etc without having a clue. It was the worst experience I have ever had and, like you and others, i was shocked that what seemed like a normal and healthy pregnancy could end that way.

I too went down the surgical management route and found it the very best option for me but everyone is different. Just sending you huge hugs. You are absolutely not alone.

I had a mmc last year it was awful looking at the screen and as you say knowing it was over before they even said there was no heartbeat . I don’t think i’ll be able to forget it but on a happy note and one that might give you some hope in 15 weeks along with my rainbow pregnancy !