Struggling to conceive after miscarriage

[SMC93]

Hi 👋 just looking for similar experiences or advice. I posted on here ages ago but can’t find it - apologies this will be long.
i came off the pill sept 2022- got pregnant January 2023 but had a Missed miscarriage at 8 weeks in march 2023. First baby. Actively trying without actually saying those words (husband is superstitious 😂) had bloods checked in nov 2023 along with the ones while on my cycle- all came back clear with not needing any follow up. 10 months all in and still unsuccessful. Im so confused 😕 literally took 5 months first time without really trying and now nothing. Husband says he doesn’t want checked because it will kill him if he’s told he can’t have children. Anyone in a similar position ? I’ve just turned 30 and husband has just turned 32 both have no children.

I’m sorry for your loss.

It can sometimes just take time and it doesn’t necessarily mean that there is anything wrong with either you.

However, if you haven’t fallen pregnant in the next couple of months, you can head to your drs for tests.

These tend to focus on you first: bloods, hormones, maybe a scan etc.

I can understand your husband’s anxiety. I think women are used to warnings about their fertility, whereas it’s often totally new territory for them. But the reality is that if there are any male factor issues, not finding out is not going to make them go away.

Hopefully it happens soon for you. Best of luck

So sorry for your loss, im pretty much in the same boat trying to conceive since august. Ive had 2 miscarriages before 6 weeks, I just keep checking my ovulation and periods and going from there.

One thing for you both is, if you've been able to get pregnant once then i dont believe there is anything wrong with your husband and cannot be deemed infertile.

On the other hand, ive found when you have been trying for a while, you tend to stress about not getting pregnant (because same.. i stress when i think im pregnant, take a test and it comes up negative, its heart wrenching!)

Just enjoy having sex, dont make it a chore if that makes sense. Dont have sex just to get pregnant, enjoy each others company, it will happen. If its happened once, it will happen again.

Im 26 and hes 32, age doesnt matter really when your trying for a baby. (Doctors will tell you different they do say when a women hits her 30's her egg production starts to decline.. but you get women at 40+ getting pregnant easily).

Just enjoy it, dont stress too much it will happen at the right time x

I sympathise. My situation was slightly different as I already had a child when I was struggling to get pregnant after a miscarriage.

I did eventually get pregnant again, but it took around 1.5 years (previous pregnancies took 2-3 months). I think it might be worth getting those ovulation sticks if you haven't yet. At least then you know it's not an issue of timing. I also started taking vitamins and iron as i previously had issues with anaemia.

Honestly the wait and anticipation is horrible and I often get silently annoyed at people who tell me how perfectly they've planned their DC age gaps...

Sorry for your lost 😞 I had miscarriage 2 years ago and just find out that I am pregnant early days but I am so happy,I am nearly 41 .The only thing I did different is stopping sweets and drinking 2 L of water daily+4000 vitamin D

I’d go back to Doctor for more tests in march, as it will be have been a year. Sorry to be a bit mean but your husband really needs to have the tests. It’s not all on you. The outcome of the tests is the only way to know if you may need to consider IVF, or hopefully all looks ok and you can try naturally for a bit longer. Otherwise, try lifestyle changes like no alcohol, healthy diet, exercise, minimise stress.

@SMC93 how are things now I’m going through the same struggle and each month is so rough and heartbreaking seeing the negatives.

I am so sorry for your loss. Missed miscarriages are just so bloody cruel. I conceived very quickly when Ttc but this led to a missed mc.
i can only give you my experience....:
struggled to conceive after the mmc. I had surgical management as it never passed on its own and the medication didn't work.

followng this, I was Ttc for several months after but nothing was happening. I also noticed my periods were more painful and lighter than before. After ALOT of googling and self diagnosis I suspected I had ashermans syndrome (scarring and adhesions in the uterus, most likely caused by mmc surgery)

fast forward to now, I had successful surgery to treat my ashermans and have subsequently fallen pregnant via ivf (still very early days but it's a massive step forward after nearly 2 years of trying with no positive pregnancy test)

ashermans is very difficult to diagnose unless you are a specialist. I tell you this not to worry you, but to share my story and spread awareness as ashermans is hugely under diagnosed.

if you feel you have the symptoms, I would honestly urge you to see a private specialist in ashermans, not the nhs. Please feel free to message me if you would like more information.

So sorry for your loss

We have miscarriage history too

How are things ?

Im getting my tubes flushed soon