Returning to work after MMC

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Hi all - just lying in bed unable to sleep after having SMM today.

I'm feeling physically ok, but emotionally traumatised. Though it does come in waves and is helped by my husband (who is also upset) and wonderful 3 yr old.

I found out I was pregnant the 1st week I started in a new role in work. Although I was obviously cautious with my thoughts, having my happy little secret was the only thing getting me through working in a place I absolutely hate.

I'm off this week because of the procedure. But thinking of being signed off another week for some emotional time, as the idea of going back alone is quite upsetting for me.

Anyone else take more time off work or was it a useful distraction?

On another note! I'm also starting to get very keen to TTC again soon as I feel being pregnant again is the only way I can feel happy (and it took a long time to conceive this one and I'll be turning 39 this year). I'll need to check husband is emotionally ready so soon though.....

Apologies for the long post! Thanks for taking the time to read!
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So sorry for your loss.

i was climbing the walls after my week off post-MMC, but you know yourself! I found going back to work helped me get back to normality.

This is my 2nd week off, I found out I had a mmc 2 days after my 12 week scan where baby was moving and had a heartbeat when we had a second scan with a fetal medicine consultant. I was meant to have surgical management last Wednesday but it ended up happening naturally the night before which was very traumatic.

I had 2 weeks booked off already for a holiday which we ended up cancelling. And last week was the week I was meant to go back to work but got signed off for 2 weeks because nothing had happened. I'm planning to have next week off as well because I feel like I'm only now able to process what has happened emotionally and don't think I can go back till I have without it having a negative effect on my mental health.

Take as much time as you need, work will still be there. I feel guilty taking this much time off work but my husband told me this is the time to be selfish and think about what is best for only you and no one else because the world will go on.

Hope you feel recovered emotionally as soon as possible x

Sorry for what has happened to you. I came by your post as I’ve been signed off for the last two weeks and debating whether I am ready to go back - I starting having a miscarriage before Xmas and scan after xmas showed just clots left and no pregnancy tissue but then two weeks ago I had a massive haemorrhage and had to have an evac as there was still some tissue left. I feel I am emotionally okay now and would welcome the distraction but physically I’m drained. I am due to go back Friday and said to my boss I would like a phased return due to me still being so exhausted and even though she said she was supportive she basically said I would get a week of a phased return then be expected to be back to FT - pretty sure that’s not how it works.

I guess what I am trying to say is anyone else I would be telling them definitely take more time off but when it comes to yourself to start to question whether you should.