Medical misscarriage at 16 weeks - a very much wanted baby :(

[erin13398]

Hi everyone,

After screening, further blood tests and a diganostic test, our baby has been diagnosed with disabilities and other issues that after speaking with midwives, consultants, doctors and our families have come to terms with the fact we cannot continue with this pregnancy! Please note this is our first and very much wanted baby and we are utterly heartbroken this has happened to us! 😥

We met with a doctor yesterday who guided us to the medical misscarriage route. I took the first pill while with them yesterday and am due to be in hospital tomorrow morning 9am to continue the process where everything else will happen while there.

I am absolutely petrified and so so scared for the pain i’m going to feel.

I think all I’m looking for is a little bit advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation or had a medical termination at the same sort of stage week wise as me.

I am a real worrier and my anxiety is through the roof!! 😫

@erin13398

glad to hear everything went as expected for you. Take care and be kind to yourself and good luck for the future x

Hi all, 2 and a bit years on from my post I just wanted to jump on to say I hope everyone is well ❤️ 9 months post my TFMR in Dec 2023, I fell pregnant and had our beautiful baby boy in June 2025, turning 1 year old in a couple weeks time! Nothing will completely heal me from losing our first little baby, but the comfort I felt after having my little boy was immense! 💙

Huge congratulations on your baby boy, such lovely news. Having had a TFMR six months ago, seeing your post gives me so much hope. I read so many of these threads when I was in the thick of it and it provides so much comfort to know there can be a happy ending. Lots of love to you and your family.

@Fletchasketch Thank you so very much! I was the exact same, I lived on this site reading so many people’s stories, it felt like a really safe place to be when going through the toughest time. I hope you are putting yourself first and looking after your own self while navigating through your journey. Sending you so much hope, wishes, love and hugs! ❤️