When you have been through awful times you come to appreciate people’s kindness.
I just wanted to say thank you, to the people who say the right things when people have had a miscarriage.
I appreciate it’s hard to know what to say (and that’s a good thing to say tbh!)
I got talking to my aesthetician today that I have polycystic ovaries and she said do you have kids? I said no I’ve had a few mc. (Always easier somehow to open up to strangers)! She said with genuine empathy “I’m sorry.”
It really struck me.
Due to my personal circumstances (mental health and gyno issues which I found out after all my mc) I can’t and won’t be trying again. And I am not meaning this in a bitter way at all but when people say “one day a miracle might happen” or “it might happen when you’re not trying” although not intended that really hurts because actually no, it will not happen and comments like that remind me of that.
So a big thank you to those people who just say I’m sorry, or I don’t know what to say or similar. You’re the best.
And no hate at all to people who have said m things that have intentionally upset because before mc I had no clue and probably would have done the same.
And also for those who are having a hard time with it, love to you all and feel free to share. Christmas is a hard time of year for these things.
💐