Feel like I’m losing my mind a bit

[PocketRocket12]

I know it sounds dramatic but I’m so not myself and can’t put my finger on it. I’m a mum of a toddler with a pretty stressful job. Husband also works an intense job with irregular hours.

Five weeks ago I had a medical miscarriage at 11 weeks. It was our fourth miscarriage (had healthy DC after third) and although I was upset, I felt like I processed it quickly and was back at work in 48 hours.

Since then, I feel not myself. Examples are:

• Regularly forgetting things
• More tired and irritable than usual
• Snappy with husband and DC
• VERY clumsy - have cut my head open and dropped 3 glasses in a week
• Feeling a sick feeling in my stomach all the time
• Nearly crashed the car twice
• Have had three situations that people swear blind were one way and I have absolutely no memory of those things happening

It’s kind of like feeling overwhelmed but times a million. I am really stressed at work so it could just be stress but I really find it difficult to explain to my husband who I am sure is finding me a little difficult to live with at the moment.

Could it be unprocessed grief? Was always a bit stressed before miscarriage but nothing like this.

Thanks x

I'm so sorry for your loss, and to hear how you're feeling at the moment. Grief does weird things to people, and not a lot of time has passed yet since your miscarriage, so go easy on yourself. Have you considered seeking counselling? There is help available through the Miscarriage Association and Tommy's, or you could contact your GP.

@PocketRocket12 - very sorry to learn of your losses. Have you spoken to your GP? Research evidence is building on how traumatic miscarriage is for many women. Things like memory loss can be trauma responses (temporary cognitive changes when things are overwhelming). Would avoid driving for now. You may need to time to heal. Be extra kind to yourself at this time. Sending you very best wishes.

I think you should see your GP and take some time off.

I have a stressful job and have had miscarriages.

I'm so sorry for your lost.

You need some time off. You need rest. Take as long as you need

I haven’t spoken to my GP yet as I thought I would be wasting their time but think I will now. Thank you for your kind advice.