Incompetent cervix

[Gooses123]

Hi everyone,

I'm still coming to terms with my loss. I gave birth to our tiny daughter last week, she was only 15 weeks +3, and it has all been such a shock. I am still waiting for test results as to what happened and why my body went into early labour, but she was perfect and was still alive when she was born.

I'm still struggling with guilt and think I always will. It feels like I have completely failed and I can't help but hate my body.

The doctors at the time asked if I'd ever had surgery on my cervix or anything similar which might cause it to be weak and they briefly mentioned 'incompetent cervix'. I am just wondering if anyone has experienced similar, what does this term mean, and has anyone gone on to have successful pregnancies?

Thank you xx

Hi, I lost my baby girl at 16+2 in April. Currently pregnant again and during this pregnancy they’re measuring my cervix to make sure it’s long and closed with extra internal scans. If you do have incompetent cervix they usually put a preventative stitch in at 14 weeks but if they need to put in a rescue stitch the success iPod it working is reduced. However I follow someone on Instagram who had a rescue stitch and managed with a pessary and went to nearly 37 weeks! I think as long as they are aware of the issue they closely monitor it. They couldn’t rule it out with me but they think my placenta came away.. I hope you’re okay. It’s really hard going through a late loss. My thoughts are with you 🤍🤍

Thanks for your reply @Hampstead16

I'm so sorry you lost your baby girl. I am happy to hear you are pregnant again, and wishing you all the best 💖

Do you mind me asking how long did you have to wait to get results/discuss what might have happened with doctors? And how long did they suggest waiting before trying again? I think I need to give myself time to properly grieve, but then half of me just feels so empty and lost and I just want to be pregnant again, it's such a weird time juggling all these different feelings!

@Gooses123 Sorry for the late reply, in my trust we have to wait 12 weeks for the debrief appointment. By the time I went to my appointment I was already 5 weeks pregnant. They didn’t give me a time period to wait before trying again but I’m in the premature birth clinic now and the consultant did make a comment about how I got pregnant really quickly. It’s really hard not to try when you’re so desperate to have a baby, not to the replace the one you lost 🤍🤍 hope you are okay. Sending my thoughts x