Ongoing sadness after miscarriage

[PlateSpinner23]

Morning all,

I think I'm just after a virtual hug... I had a miscarriage in July this year. Found out at 8 weeks that baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. It then took my body until almost the end of that month to miscarry, which was quite traumatic both in the waiting, and then that I miscarried a lot 'more' than I had been told to expect.

I've found all the coverage around Baby Loss Awareness Week recently really hard, and then found out last week that a colleague is expecting her Feb 2024 baby two days before what would have been my due date. I'm just coming on to my second full period since the miscarriage, so that's another cycle unsuccessful....

I just feel so sad. I should be nearly 6 months pregnant now, and I can't stop thinking about it. Struggling to get my head into my job today.

Thanks,
H.

Hi,

I also lost a Feb 24 baby in July, so I can understand your sadness. I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs x

My heart goes out to you. I had 2 very early miscarriages before having my DDs. What I found even harder, though, was when each of my girls miscarried. I felt grief about the babies, but I hurt so much for my daughters. I'm their mother and this wasn't something from which I could protect them.

The next time I pray for my younger daughter's ongoing situation, I'll remember you as well. 💐

@PlateSpinner23 I'm so sorry for your loss and for how you are feeling. I don't think this kind of grief ever leaves us, we just grow around it and take it with us. I haven't got any great words of wisdom to offer, other than to say that it's totally okay to feel the way that you do, so allow yourself to feel it and be kind to yourself. ❤

So Sorry for your loss, I lost my first pregnancy in August. I'm still struggling with it, don't feel bad or guilty for still finding it hard. I have seen a therapist a few times which has really helped me. We've decided to take a break from TTC and plan some nice things to do.

Hey, I also lost a Feb 24 baby, in August. I lost a baby back in November also so its coming up to a year since my first baby loss. Both MMC, the grief never goes, especially around the loss date and due dates. But try to remain positive, I have to believe our babies were needed for much higher purposes than we could ever comprehend. It's a cruel thing, but brings some kind of light in a very dark place to think they are happy and living a full life in another life xx

So sorry for your loss and that you have had to go through this. We had our first miscarriage at 9 weeks in the April and it was horrible physically and mentally, it took us until the October to try again. I miscarried again at 11 weeks it was truly horrible. I’d had a bit of spotting at nine weeks and had a scan and everything was okay. I went for my dating scan 2 weeks later on 21st December to find our baby had died and had to go in on Christmas Eve for a d&c it was a horrible time.

we went on to have a further 4 and when I found out I was pregnant the 7th time I just sat and cried for an hour thinking it was just going to happen again. But this time it didn’t. I didn’t relax until I had my 20 week scan and our daughter is 11 now, I still think about the ones that didn’t make it. My oldest should be turning 16 next month.

there is no right or wrong way to feel, we are all different and it’s horrible to go through. I’m sorry to anyone who has had to go through this.

6 miscarriages!! My God, you are so strong. I am even now miscarrying my first and being pregnant for 8 weeks was so awful I don't think I can ever do it again with the knowledge that it might end with me having to take these bloody pills to get the crap out of me.

Thank you all for your lovely messages, and I'm sorry for all of you that have also experienced loses. I'm feeling a bit more balanced today. Xx