Miscarriage a year ago

[rach971]

Does anyone else still find themselves affected by a miscarriage a while after it's happened?

I had a miscarriage in August last year, then we conceived again around November and had our daughter two months ago. I still find myself getting upset over the miscarriage though. It just randomly hits me out of the blue every now and again and makes me feel like crying.

I don't know why but I almost feel stupid for being upset over it still, knowing that people go through much worse and I do have my baby girl now.

I think it's hit me again this week because of pregnancy & baby loss awareness week.

We have baby buried in a plant pot in the garden though so that's some consolation at least 😢

You're not being stupid at all you're grieving a child and that doesn't change just because you've had another one. Grief takes time and it does hit you out of the blue at times, don't be too hard on yourself.

I lost my first one in 2016 and I still think about them.

Whatever you feel is what you feel. 22 years ago for me and sometimes I still shed a tear. Enjoy your little one and remember the one who went too early. You don't have to choose or forget. Sending a hand hold for the sad times and a smile to accompany your happiness.

I think that’s completely normal. I thought once I conceived again, it wouldn’t hurt as much but it is still really painful.

Same here OP, I’ve had three losses but have two DC. I still cry fairly regularly over my losses, and you’re right, the fact that it’s baby loss awareness week probably brings it closer to the surface. Be kind to yourself, you’re still allowed to grieve. Having another baby doesn’t take away the pain or the loss the way that people who haven’t been through it imagine it does.

I had three miscarriages last year and then had my little boy last month. Spent the first few days after his birth crying about the miscarriages. Feeling really mixed up. It is normal. It has lessened for me over the last week or so but I get very emotional thinking about the babies I didn’t get to meet.

This gets me too, I had a missed miscarriage in November last year (found at at the 13 week scan that baby hadn't grown past 5 weeks) and I'm now 7 months pregnant (also already have a DS which was hugely helpful when I miscarried). Things keep reminding me that I was pregnant this time last year too, it hits you when you are not expecting it.

Yes everyday I think about it and it’s painful 9 months on ❤️‍🩹I find things like yoga journaling walking in nature helps a little but your still heartbroken and it’s understandable sending hugs xx