Early miscarriage - what can I expect?

[Habbibu]

Discovered on Thurs that I'm miscarrying - think I was about 8 weeks, but a scan on Weds showed a 6 week size foetus, no heartbeat, and started to bleed yesterday. We're mostly ok with it, tbh - this was a much wanted pregnancy, but somehow it just never felt quite right. I know all pregnancies are different, but I just never quite "felt" pregnant as I have before. DH and LittleHab are being marvellous. We're feeling a bit up and down and weary, but otherwise ok.

Bleeding a bit more today, so I'm presuming I'll miscarry naturally. I'd be grateful for any experiences - how long does it take? Do you usually know when it's almost complete, or does it just tail off gradually? We have a scan booked for 17th anyway, so I guess we'll see what's what then, but we are supposed to be going to a wedding this weekend, and I don't know if it's foolish to plan to still go - emotionally I'm pretty sure I'll be up to it - it helps that no-one knew I was pregnant, so there's no explaining to do. Any experiences/advice most welcome.

Oh, thanks, sad73. I'm ok, to be honest, just a bit weary. Find trying to get pregnant stressful, and was kind of hoping that this would be the last time. But, as Daisy says, there's always hope. And thank you too for posting her when you're having such a hard time. I do hope the coming days and weeks bring you some peace. It does get better, I promise. You don't forget, but you do find a home for the love and the pain, and let them become part of you.

habbibu, how are you today? I saw you on another thread, but didn't want to hi-jack.

Oh, hello Daisy! I'm quite good, I think - quite looking forward to wedding at weekend. The few people who know have said "oh, it might all be ok", which actually is bugging me a bit - I've kind of come to terms with it, and don't need hope, if you see what I mean. I don't want to go all nervous for a scan on Monday - just want to feel calm and accepting (have done enough nervous scans to last me a lifetime!). So, not much happening, and I guess we'll get options on Monday.

I did scribble out all the dates on my calendar, when I'd been trying to work out weeks...

Thank you for asking, lovely.

Update - had scan on Monday - things seem to be progressing. Looks very different from the other week - not recognisable as a pregnancy any more. Still no pain, but am stocked up with good painkillers now from EPAC. We have decided to give it 10 days, go back for a scan and see where we are - due to go to Italy for a week on 5th April, so really hope it's over by then. We'll decide at the next scan whether I'll have an ERPC.

On the plus side - had fab weekend at wedding, with LittleHab charming all and sundry and having a ball. EPAC were fab and lovely, and the nurse who came to double-check the scan was the lovely lovely woman who looked after us when I went in to deliver our first little girl, after the anencephaly diagnosis. We told her we'd come and see her with good news then (and did), and so fingers crossed we'll be popping in with another little habbi before too long. I do love that hospital - bloody marvellous place...