Do you feel like you are distancing yourself from family and friends?

[Zazii]

It has been 10days now but I feel I am more and more distant to everybody. I dont want to interfere or be involved in anything. I just want to be alone. We're you like that? How did you manage to get back to normal? Thank you 🍂

@Zazii Sorry for your loss. Yes, I found that I retreated after my MC, and for a period of time only really spoke to my husband (other than messages to family and close friends). Last Saturday was just over 2 weeks since my surgery and it was the first time I managed to have a normal conversation with my parents without getting upset. I've also only socialised with friends once since, and found it really quite overwhelming.

So what I can say here is that it's totally normal and understandable to want some time alone to process your loss and recover physically, and there's absolutely no need to push yourself to be sociable or start interacting a lot with others if you don't feel you can yet. But if there are family or friends who are offering you support, make sure you lean on them when you feel like you need to - even if it's just a WhatsApp message or a short phone call to chat about how you're feeling (or to talk about something else entirely to take your mind off it). Just ease yourself back into it gently and don't put yourself under lots of pressure to be "normal" again.

@Zazii I can totally relate to this. I have totally distanced myself both in personal life and work. I can't engage in small talk. I haven't told my family either and feel like that's a dark cloud hanging over me, but I really don't want them to have to deal with this too - I want to give them positive news and this feels so hard to break to them.

Sorry for your loss. I was the same I just wante to be alone. Don’t worry about it, your friends and family need to understand you need to do what works for you.

This makes me sad, if you want to share, share. Ive found it’s helped to be open with others.

@PinkRoses1245 I think I will get there in time. I've told my sister now and that's helped a lot more than I realised. It's just such difficult news to share. We should have been sharing positive news around this time.