No heartbeat at 14+5

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I had a private sexing scan booked for this afternoon, but this morning I started having a small bleed, just streaks.
The bleeding died down so thought it's probably nothing, and I have that scan booked so if any problems it would be picked up.

I mentioned the bleeding to the tech when I got to my appointment so she said she would check baby over initially. StraIght away I knew it was gone, no flutter on the image. They tried to listen for a heart beat, nothing. Measured baby and was showing 12+2 so must've passed a couple of weeks ago.

They're hoping to get me an appointment at EPU tomorrow otherwise I'll have to wait until Monday - I just want to know what is the process through the NHS? How is the miscarriage managed?

I'm not on the UK so can't answer your question but didn't want to leave you unanswered here. So so sorry to hear that, hope you are OK and have good supports around you. Hope you find the answer to your question.

So very sorry for what’s happened to you, I didn’t want to read and run. It was a number of years ago but I have had two surgically managed miscarriages under GA and I felt well looked after and that it was the right thing for me. I felt I didn’t want to be waiting around for things to happen at home, and start to grieve the loss. Everyone is different though, they should take time to talk you through all your options. 💐

I'm sorry OP. My later ones were a bit earlier, at 9 and 10 weeks respectively, and I was offered medication to bring on the miscarriage and surgery (or just waiting to see what would happen naturally). I felt a bit more steered toward the surgery, as it was explained to me that I would otherwise risk things happening when I was at work or on the tube or something. The surgery felt more "controlled" and to be honest helped me to move on.
In each case I went to hospital early and they did the surgery under general later in the day (lots of waiting) and I went home the same day. With the second one I asked (and paid for) tests to be done as I wanted to know the cause of the miscarriage. The results were sent to a consultant I chose and booked an appointment with. Everyone was very kind, and hard though it was I felt they really looked after me.
I hope things go as smoothly as they can for you too, Op.

So sorry for your loss. I had a MMC at 10 weeks this year (found out at 13 week scan) and we were only offered medical management. I did find it to be really hard emotionally having to pass the pregnancy though it did also give me some closure seeing the baby. I have heard some people speak more positively about surgical management on here.

I found out at 11.5 weeks that there was no heartbeat. Baby only measured 8weeks.

I had started to spot at this point. I was offered surgical management but next availability was 10 days. Was told to go home and see what happens. I miscarried at home 2 days later.

As you are further along they might want to manage it in hospital.

So sorry for your loss xx

I’m so sorry you are going through this. I have been through it twice this year myself. On your appointment you will be scanned and then taken to speak with a nurse and a doctor. They will give you a tablet called mifepristone, you will then be asked to return after 48 hours. When you return you will be given pessaries to induce labour ( you will be offered pain meds) don’t be afraid to ask for something stronger any time you need it. Once you have baby you will be aloud to spend time with him/her if you wish to. My local hospital sends a Chaplin to visit and she sorted funeral plans with us. They offer burial and cremation from 12 weeks at my hospital but I know not all do. Placenta tests are not aloud before 16 weeks so the second time it happened to me I asked to hold out a week on starting the procedure. This aloud me to push for the placenta testing through the bereavement midwife. I hope this helps! If you have any questions ask away and if I can help I will!